Sorry rickman, I don't know your situation obviously so maybe I'm talking off the top of my head, but when in the situation whereby ex dp, who had left me before I'd found out I was pregnant and only came back to want to "show the baby off", I just couldn't cope. The animosity was tremendous, his parents had been real "s*s to me on the phone and it was a case of just wanting to "claim" some control over DS. None of them gave a s**t about me or our circumstances and I too caved in and let them come. It was horrendous, like a media circus, with the video camera and camera out. I was made to feel in the way in my own cramped home, I was just facilitating the showing off of the "trophy". There wasn't a word of concern for us, interest in DS or anything, he was just being "demonstrated". The whole thing was so stressful and I hadn't wanted it in the first place. As I wasn't intending to deny ex DP access, I decided after that that as DS was a life long committment and presumably, no one was going anywhere, DS wasn't going to suffer as a baby by not seeing his grandparents until such time as ex DP was taking him out on his own. At which time, ex DP could choose to spend as much time with his parents as he wanted. I wouldn't have to put up with that scenario again. No way would I ever lose control in my own home in that way ever again. Nor do I believe that DS would have "suffered" had he not seen his grandparents at that age. He wouldn't even have remembered, so it was not for him, it was for them, and I owe them nothing. Don't be intimidated in your home. If your upset, and stressed, baby will be too remember. Not worth it. I really hope its absolutely nothing like that for you and your circumstances are different. Take a deep breath and grit your teeth. And don't watch the clock!!! It only goes slower!