Another CMS moan.

[welshcake86]

I know there is nothing I can do here, I just wanted to rant because it just feels so ridiculously unfair.

My ex, after much fighting, has reluctantly paid the minimum child maintenance for our DS and not a penny more for the last couple of years - it's a small amount (£120) and he certainly won't contribute to anything extra our DS needs but at least it was something.

My ex has recently had another child and has made the decision to be a SAHD and has stopped paying any maintenance at all for our DS. I know this is his and his partners choice how they raise their child but what about his other child?

Although it was a small amount I am a single parent on a single income and really struggling with the loss. I am worried where I am going to absorb it without it directly impacting DS.

Meanwhile, my ex is taking DS on two abroad holidays this year but refuses to pay a single penny towards what he actually needs, and I certainly can't afford to take DS away at all because of this. I'm happy he gets to to go on holiday with his dad at least but how is it fair he can play the disney dad while paying absolutely nothing towards what he actually needs?

I should mention he sees him EOW with one over night stay.

That’s awful. It’s a very unfair system.

He's a fucking knob, that's why.

If he's a SAHD, could he do some childcare for you so you can save costs that way?

Edited: Hadn't read the custody arrangements.

Yes, the way here forward here is to increase his visitation.

So every 28 days, he currently has him 4. But not full days, because he only stays the Saturday night. I would suggest the first step is that he picks him up from school on the Friday at least. Or maybe even Thursday. Then he can whip school uniform through the wash if needs be for Friday, and collect him after that too. Then you get a break from drop off Thursday morning to Sunday evening.

Further to this, I don't know if there's any way you can get him on a variation. I don't think there is, because he's not diverting his own income, he's choosing not to have any.