Single mother worries!

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Myself and the father of my 2 children have recently separated. We have agreed I have the kids 4 days a week and he has 3. So far we haven't had to get solicitors involved.
My main worry is my babies missing me when they are with their dad... And also how I'm going to cope not seeing them for 3 days! Has anyone experienced this that can give some words of wisdom 🙏
Thanks!

Yes.

In all honesty the first few times are the hardest but it gets easier.

You might learn to enjoy the time to yourself. Maybe plan to do some child-free things so you can have positive experiences while they're away.

Also, four on and three off or whatever sounds tricky. Kids need a primary home.

My ex is (despite all his MANY faults) super hands-on, and he does every other weekend and one midweek. You don't want one parent getting all the weekends or vice versa.

Join a gym, it has been life-changing for me. I can go in my own and no one looks at me. I can kill 2 hours with a slow bike ride / walk then a swim. I am happy to go alone and have made friends.

My gym offers a UC discount, worth also investing if you can get a cheaper membership.

It'll be an adjustment for everyone.
When we shared care I had a running list of to-dos to take care of while they were away, but also meeting up with friends, hair appointments, and started swimming more often etc. Even just going out for a walk in the early morning or late in evening when Id normally be unable to helped.

Some people choose to change their work days when possible so they could be home when kids with them, especially on school holidays.

I'm a solo mum.

Mine's an adult. All turned out well.