Dear all
My son has had to go and live with his dad for the time being due to assaulting me and trashing my house. Dad now wants csa money and for me to transfer child benefit. He has contacted the csa and they are demanding £600 a month. I am refusing to give him that amount . I have three children by him two are older now . Everytime I contacted the csa to get money from their father he forced me not to go through csa by bribing me and cohersive behaviour saying he would only have the kids 1 night a week and that it would cost me more to get a babysitter if I wanted to have a life etc. I run my own business and still do so I needed help with child care . So because of this I didn’t get what I was entitled too he paid what he wanted . I have said to him now I am willing to pay him now for one son what he paid me all this time and he is saying no I want to go through the csa as he know he can get more. I have all the proof of the text of cohersive behaviour backdated years ago and will speak to the csa tomorrow about it . I cannot afford to give him £600 a month and already have had to drop a week of work because of having my grandchild once a week so my daughter does t have such expensive nursery fees . I will have to stop having my grandchild if I have to pay this as I will struggle financially and he has now said you are using your grandchild as a weapon. I am at my wits end what to do . Pleasehelp what you think. I should do and whether I will have a case with the csa tomorrow.