Dealing with courts for years

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Feel so low from dealing with courts for years and having to deal with the awful judges. It’s so depressing trying to stand up for myself and my child from abuse let alone just trying to live is hard enough. Anyone else going through this?

Aww. How long have you had to do this and how old is your child?

A couple of years and my boy is four now .

Bless you OP. I remember it all too well.. 💐

My awful ex-H kept me in court for 4 years over access to DD. It wasn’t until she was 10 that he finally gave up - she’s now turning 21 and has never seen or heard from him since which confirms my suspicions that the custody battle had very little to do with DD, it was actually to further emotionally abuse me.

DD was forced to endure years of meetings with judges, child psychologists and social workers. For a naturally shy and anxious child it was all really quite traumatic for her. DD (always very mature) was adamant from the start that she had no interest in seeing ex-H - for the 6 years of her life that he lived with us he barely bothered with her, she witnessed his moods and how abusive he was to me. Her feelings were completely disregarded by all professionals and ultimately it all culminated in a year of weekly supervised contact sessions with ex-H. By this point she was 9, she despised the sessions and made it very clear to him that she had no interest in having a relationship or engaging. He’d often get frustrated and angry at her because of this (particularly as DD saw her stepdad as more of a father figure than ex-H), eventually he lost his temper and gave up on the contact sessions for good.

My only advice if you feel you’re getting nowhere is to switch solicitors. It made such a huge difference for me and they dealt with things far better.