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The Waiting Room?

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hellfire2999 · 22/02/2025 13:05

Anyone else or just me and my thoughts?

The Waiting Room

No I am not waiting for an appointment.. I am awaiting a time..

A time when my ex steps up for my daughter and gives her the time she craves

A time when I don’t have to worry about damage control when my ex lets my daughter down again

A time when my life begins again..

When I get some time for me without having to ask for help

When I am not just another single Mum

When I get to think about only me because I’ve raised awesome children who need me less and have amazing lives of there own

When I meet someone who will love me for being me

When I am not told I am too much, too sensitive, too anxious, too happy, too positive (if only the knew on the last two!)

When my mortgage is paid and I do not worry that every decision I make will impact on me providing a family home for my children

When despite the hours I give to work it will feel enough.. I will feel enough

When every ache and pain does not send me into a frenzy worrying that I wont be around for my children when they need me the most

When I get to scream I fucking did it.. It wasn’t what I wanted… I didn’t get a choice in a lot of it but I made sacrifices, cried tears my children saw, cried tears I hid and struggled through days when I wanted to no longer walk this earth..but until then I am in my waiting room.. stepping up every day… loving my children, making the most of my life within it’s constraints… but also waiting

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OldwiseOwl · 25/02/2025 12:37

How old are you Op? It sounds like you are doing an amazing job but I hope you find time for yourself when you need it.

TickingKey46 · 26/02/2025 13:14

I get it,single parent to 2 children, who don't see their father.
But I think what ever you feel you're waiting for atm, you're always be waiting for something! There's never going to be a time where your not waiting for something, it all just evolves.

hellfire2999 · 26/02/2025 15:38

OldwiseOwl · 25/02/2025 12:37

How old are you Op? It sounds like you are doing an amazing job but I hope you find time for yourself when you need it.

I am 45.

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OldwiseOwl · 01/03/2025 14:03

How's it going @hellfire2999 ?
I hope you can take some time this weekend just for you. Be that sitting in the sun, catching up with a friend or just doing something that brings you joy.

hellfire2999 · 01/03/2025 14:56

TickingKey46 · 26/02/2025 13:14

I get it,single parent to 2 children, who don't see their father.
But I think what ever you feel you're waiting for atm, you're always be waiting for something! There's never going to be a time where your not waiting for something, it all just evolves.

That is a fair point and I see where you are coming from totally but it is the difference between waiting for something you’ve booked to come up or waiting to even consider being able to do something? Not sure if I am making sense 🤦‍♀️

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hellfire2999 · 01/03/2025 14:59

OldwiseOwl · 01/03/2025 14:03

How's it going @hellfire2999 ?
I hope you can take some time this weekend just for you. Be that sitting in the sun, catching up with a friend or just doing something that brings you joy.

Thanks for the message, oh please do know I do, do all of those things when I can I am currently sat enjoying my sunny garden with a book in hand listening to my favourite songs, its glorious… but I’m still waiting 😂

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OldwiseOwl · 01/03/2025 15:41

That's good to hear you do those things. While you're waiting you might as well enjoy yourself and take advantage of things like the weather. It's a bit of a cliché but instead of feeling like waiting, I find it beneficial to consider the many opportunities there can be, some now and some in the future and that although at times it can and does feel like we have little say or control of our lives, we do have some.

hellfire2999 · 01/03/2025 18:19

OldwiseOwl · 01/03/2025 15:41

That's good to hear you do those things. While you're waiting you might as well enjoy yourself and take advantage of things like the weather. It's a bit of a cliché but instead of feeling like waiting, I find it beneficial to consider the many opportunities there can be, some now and some in the future and that although at times it can and does feel like we have little say or control of our lives, we do have some.

That is a nice way of thinking about it, will give it a go. I think part of my frustration is that I never want to be sitting on the sofa in later life wishing I’d done something. As you get older you realise how short life can be.

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rockingbird · 01/03/2025 18:46

I totally get it, I've been thinking about this a lot. I feel like life is passing me by and I'm just a single mum raising her boys. Now they are teens it's becoming easier for me to pop over to a friend's house for a couple of hours and get some adult conversation. I'm also contemplating a solo holiday - trying to get others to tie in with my plans is almost impossible so I've decided this year I'm not putting it off anymore.. ExH is like a bad penny, turns up now and again and is pretty useless! Too busy living life to give us much thought, it boils my piss he gets the easy gig even though he's the one who destroyed the family. I've aired my views on this and told him he needs to step up and do better as a parent. We do Ok and the boys are lovely, helpful at home and no trouble but my life has been on hold for far too long that's definitely changing this year.

OldwiseOwl · 01/03/2025 20:28

I think the fact that you are thinking about these things now is a good sign that you won't just sit back and accept things.

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