Would you/Do you buy prezzies for xp?

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Would you/Do you buy prezzies for xp?

You know, for xmas, birthdays and fathers day off your dc?
Even though he never buys you any (when I get a mothers day card its off my mum).

Yes I do buy my ex H presents from the boys for Christmas, birthdays & father's day. He does the same for me too.

I dont, but my friend does for her xp, but then he buys for her too.

Thanks guys

Just don't know what to do, I did buy presents for xp for over a year after dd was born even though we split up when she was 6 months old after he hit me and since then he's made my life hell, so I thought maybe I would give it a miss this year, he's been such a nasty git and really unappreciative too.

He doesnt deserve presents then. dont waste your money on him, spend it on yourself instead.

Thanks Vinegar

Thats what my new dp has been saying, I think you and him are right, its time to stop.
I'd rather spend money on my lovely dd instead.

Did do quite well at xmas though, managed to get all his xmas presents off dd at Boots and it was the 'free' one of the 3 for 2, made me feel much better

No way not wasting money on him - only pressie I ever got him after splitting was a car wash kit to rub in the fact that I got the car in the settlement!

Good for you Twinkle!

I wouldnt - Ive wiped better off the sole of my shoe than the likes of him - just found out he celebrated leaving me and our 7 yr old daughter by going to paris for the weekend on the weekend he left us what a lovely bloke and he swears no one else is involved - funny that how many men would go to paris for a weekend on their own and spend £1000?? he never spent the like of that on a family holiday so the only present I would give him is a present my dog leaves on the lawn I wouldnt even wrap it up .

I have done on behalf of DD - but he's never done the same for me. If I get any presents from DD now, she buys them out of her own pocket money.

When we were married, I thought he was careful. Now I realise he was just plain tight!

Sounds like your ex doesn't deserve gifts, so spend the money on your child instead.

I have done, but I totally forgot his birthday this year. whoops. He does pay for things that they want to buy me, so I feel obliged to get him something from them too. But it's always what they want to get him. I don't choose. Feels more detached that way.

no i dont

Thanks for the posts guys, looks like xp is gonna have to wait until dd's old enough to buy her own presents for him.

He really doesn't deserve any, not after he hit me, ignores dd's routine, dragged me to court for more contact, cost me a small fortune in solicitors fee's and was spying on me by reading my very personal emails to my new dp.

I got XP socks from DS at Christmas - was the most passive aggressive way I could think of dealing with the situation at the time (but he seemed quite pleased with them!). Don't get him anything from 'me' though, why would I?

Ex p never buys anything for me off the kids. When they go to visit him over christmas I always get them a token something to give him, as it makes them feel better turning up with something. I do it for them, not him.

I have never bought my ex anything from my daughter as I don't believe in rewards for bad behaviour, im not going to reward him for treating me like cr@p in the past or for not bothering with my daughter, got better things to spend my money on