Child access and guilt

[Scottishmumma3117]

Hi just looking for advice in what you would do in this situation

Me and my ex partner have a 11 month old and our relationship been on and off for couple years but he threatened me with lawyers to get custody of our child but last time he threatened not to bring our child back to me and took me 2 days until I finally got her back but this time I am not handing her over to him because he know am 100% done with the relationship and I won't get her back from him but it's been 2 weeks now and the guilt I have from my child not seeing him I feel so bad but i don't want to risk not getting her back she also has medical needs and my lawyer has advise to not had over until it gets to court i just feel so guilty because am not a nasty person.

Am I doing the right thing???

Yes you are doing the right thing, if you hand your child over now you won't get them back. Let your ex take you to court for access, with a court order he will have to return your child. Don't feel guilty, your ex took your child and refused to give them back, the only nasty person is him. Your child is only 11 months, waiting until the court hearing will not affect them long term, nobody remembers being a baby.

Absolutely doing the right thing - At 11 months old refusing to return a child to his mum is damaging .

you need a residency order which enforces return of your child before Ex gets to see him .

This is a situation of his making.