New Mom To Be

[xxgemmalou22xx]

hi there all im gem 22 yrs old also 34 weeks pregnant having a girl my first baby and im doing it alone the dad run off when i was 12 weeks pregnant and got with someone whos got a baby boy whos one year old and i aint heard from him since. i have joined to get some support and talk to others who have been in my shoes to get tips so i can do my best to be a good mom to my baby

Hi gem, welcome to Mumsnet.

I werent single when i had dss but i have been since he was 9 months old. You're to find help and support here.

are you in america? Just wondered why you said mom rather than mum. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and hope you find lots of support here. Post regularly, particularly on the "chat" thread and you'll find loads in common with lots of mums on here.

surpise people in the west midlands say mom aswell. So either is a posibility

whats wrong with saying mom ? i am in the uk i always have called me mom my mom, just cos i say mom dont mean im from any where spesific its the word i have been brought up to usee

I don't think anybody suggested there was something wrong with using Mom instead of Mum (I am Mamaa, by the way )

Welcome to mumsnet, you will get plenty of support here. I have

i know its just no one has ever asked me why i say mom before because everyone else i know uses it too lol i guess theres a first time for everything eh!

It's because the internet is an international medium, so it is as possible you were from the U.S. as from England (didn't know people said 'mom' here. I don't get out enough )

Anyway, Hello Gem. Hope you are made to feel at home here

Hi gem, I was abandoned by my Ds's father when I was about 12 weeks pg too. He hasn't seen Ds since he was 3 and a half, and it wasn't a regular thing before either, but you get by - I have somehow. My Ds will be 10 in August and he is a well adjusted young man in the main, with a few growing up problems, though I'd expect him to have those regardless
My own dad has been a huge rock to my son and they are real pals, so I hope your family are good ones too. Nice to have you around.

aww thanks for that thats nicee... im happy he aint around i dont want him around but its for my childs sake that makes me angry about it all.. some woman on this other web page got me worried when i asked about less movement at 34 weeks pregnant and she said go get checked out because your baby could be still born which frightened me right so i simply said to her i dont need to hear that right now im aready worried but someone else has took it all the wrong way thinking i dont like people talking about still born babies .. i think its awful and if people go through it they should talk about it but the baby she was on about wasnt even hers im sure she was just trying to scare me! so i told this person where to go having a go at me beecause she read it all wrong and thought i didnt like women talking about still borns when i just simply asked people about less movements as there getting bigger and she frightened me about still born but i no my baby is ok i feel her moving every day... some people just try to frighten u as if it aint hard enough it drives me crazy ne ways sos for moanin but i feel better for letting it out......

Hi Gemma, I was in exactly same situation as you 22 pregnant & baby's dad nowhere to be seen. (we split up when I was 6wks pregnant) My little boy is almost 5 now & wouldnt know his dad if he stood up in front of him. I wasnt bothered that he'd left me but was really hurt that he could turn his back on our child. I got my own back though sent him an announcal of the birth card once my son was born wasnt gonna let him pretend we didnt exist. I love my son & I talk to him often about his dad being as honest as possible I want him to grow up knowing where he came from & knowing that he can ask me anything. Even though his dad hurt me I tell my son he was made coz mummy & daddy loved each other, I think its important that he knows & will make him feel secure.Congratulations on the pregnancy (no one says that when your gonna be a single parent & its sooo annoying) As for baby not moving much its just coz there isnt as much room in there as there was so not much space for baby to move! well done you for not letting pple scare you!

thanks i try not to listen to all the riff raff silly things.. some woman was lecturing me about how to give birth or the baby will die and i just said are u a qualified doctor lol and she gave it a rest. yes i no what u mean people think because ur guna be a single mom ur unhappy about bein pregnant and think of the bad things to come but what about the good times! yes i intend to tell my child about her dad and her other side of the family then she cant say i never told her the truth.. i wont run her dad down even tho i hate him big time for what hes done and just tell her that sometimes moms n dads dont get on and so they go their own way but that dont mean she wont be loved.. i got it all worked out i think ill be just fine im just so tired now at this point in pregnancy i just want a gud nite sleep. Its nice to hear off other moms who have been in my shoes knowing u have coped and all that helps me to see i can cope too and to stay strong so thanks xxx

heya gem. Im 2o with baby number 2 on the way. I have a son who is 11 months old and im expecting a little girl in about 4 weeks time. In a way your quite lucky! I left my ex because he had a gambling problem and was too controling with my life... now he fritts in and out of ds's life as and when he pleases, gives me no money and stupid excuses as to why he cant give me money and is still controling my life. I was i was in ur situation as my ex just causes way too many problems. It isnt easy bringing kids up alone but your little baby will love you so much and will hopefully grow up to admire how determined you are Im trying to complete a uni degree whilst being pregnant and atm ex is trying to get me to leave uni... so like i said ur lucky Dont take things people say on here to seriously. Its very easy to get the wrong end of the stick when people are just posting messages and you cant see the expression on their face or hear their tone of voice. Most of the ladies on here are life savers!!! I have had many a night when i have been in tears and their support has rescued me. People just want the best for you where abouts are you from in the uk??? hope everything in ur pg is going well char x

im from the midlands by walsall my pregnancy is going ok thanks im having a girl in about 4 weeks tooooo xxxx

pretty in pink for the summer You'll love being a mum its the best thing ever. Make sure u get loads of frozen meals in and have lots of people who can come and sit in a watch the baby if u need them to. Its tiring the first few days and then you'll have weird little tearful moments... i was watching pet rescue and cried the whole way through it. lol its weird. do u have a job or at college or anything? char x

i live with my parents hun so i got that sorted lol i had to leave college when i was first pregnant because i am diabetic and i have hospital appointments instead of seeing the midwife i did work in a care home but left now to have baby may go back there might give somewhere else a try. How are you feeling at this stage in your pregnancy? i went for a scan today there on about starting me in 2-4 weeks time because my baby is getting big through me being diabetic shes between 6-7lb now which is madness at 34 weeks but i cant help it i have been eating the right things its the hormones its sent me blood sugar out of control for the past two weeks and this is when she has shot up in weight! I cant wait to have my baby now am so mentally and physically tired lol its like at this point we are still going and running on reserve power i dont know how we do it men would not cope lol i see why women have the babies! x