Ex husband lack of interest in children

[2018anewstart]

Divorced 5 years ago. Children see their dad about once a week. It has always been that they have spent Christmas morning with me see their dad in afternoon for a few hours then spend boxing day with his family. Last year their dad decided to spend boxing day with his new partner so children went to his parents (their grandparents) on their own and he is doing the same this year. I have minimal contact with him in last few years however am I right to be disappointed for my children that he choses not to spend boxing day with them and his family. He will literally have most of christmas day and boxing day with his new partner and her family and just squeeze our children in for a few hours christmas day. Our children are not invited to his partners family over Christmas at all. I love having my children both days but they will go down his parents boxing day as that is what they have always done even when we were together. He has always been the same and will put himself first and have seen him leave my son in tears christmas eve to go out with another girlfriend. It just saddens me that my children are of an age that they can see their dad puts himself first over thrm constantly. On the plus side I am going to have another awesome christmas with them without him being in the house!

Sorry to hear this 🥺 my baby dad recently abandoned them altogether.
how do you feel about your children since your baby father is inconsistent? Because I feel my baby fathers absent has negatively affected the bond I have with his kids

As your children become older they will sadly see that their Dad isn't particularly bothered with them. It will be their choice as they age and go into adulthood, how much they see him and at what level they want to engage. It's really sad for your children. All you can do, is keep reminding your children, how much you love them and let them see you are the consistent, supportive parent. If further down the line, your children choose to not bother with their Dad, it will solely be his fault.

My DDs dad has very little to do them and hasn't since for about ten years ( just after his third dd was born)
In all honesty it's bliss, I have made all decisions. I have taken the lead in school and anything medical.
I have raised two hard working young women both completing degrees and working, both polite and engaging young adults. There's been no fighting over them and no fuss.
I of course do know two parents are better and I was devastated and bitter when he went awol for three years but it turned out just fine.