Struggling, at what point do you reach out to ex?

[MermaidsDoExist]

Has anyone reached out to an absent ex due to struggling with parenting alone? If so what was the outcome..

I haven't but my good friend has. She has 3 children and needed help so she called out to her last ex for help who is a parent for one of her kids but he didn't help. I don't know, some of these guys just don't care sometimes. I hope it works out better for you though if you decide to do it.

I wasn’t able to reach out to my ex as he refused to give me his address or phone number ! Which sounds ridiculous, but it’s true .

Yes but co-parenting wasn't his strong point after we split up sadly and he offered no support at all. Instead always went against what I said and made everything out to be my fault.

Don’t do it - unless you want your struggles to double.

either he will refuse and you’ll get loads of ‘I told you so’ = you’ll regret it.

he agrees, it turns into a nightmare because he isn’t reliable, isn’t there when he said
he Would be, your child grows confused with abandonment issues, ex becomes entitled in the upbringing = you’ll regret it.

he agrees, he’s the knight in shining armour in your life, he’s wonderful reliable… ask yourself why this didn’t happen in the first place?

Don’t do it.

find a network of worthy friends, faux aunties and uncles, family, pay for help, teach your child to be more empathetic with you. Build resilience, find mental ways of coping.

your life will be infinitely better than with a man who abandoned you both.

Thanks all but there really is no one else, I have no family support my family don’t care and won’t help and I have no friends.

I’m telling you now. Your solutions do not lie in the arms of your ex.

you sound like you have little self confidence. I am a solo parent. My ex is not in the picture. My parents are dead and I have two brothers we never see.

I have focused on my job, building a network of friends and paying for care. It’s taken time. You can do the same.

Ask yourself, where has he been till now? Why hasn’t he been present? What do you think will change in the future?