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Indirect contact order broken?

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Mumples · 18/12/2024 20:00

Hi All,
So... my ex hubby and father to my kids who are both under 8 was given an indirect contact order in court a few months back.
He is meant to be sending letters every 2 weeks, this hasn't happened which is his choice. However today turned up at a school event and was harassing the kids to talk to him.
Expecting me to play happy families when he has been abusive to me for the last 6 years, the abuse getting much worse since we split.
My question is, is this breaking the court order and if so, what do I do?
TIA
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InkHeart2024 · 19/12/2024 05:03

Does the court order specifically say no direct contact? If so the school should have a copy of it and can bar him from the premises.

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Mumples · 19/12/2024 08:34

Thank you for your reply 😊
the order says indirect contact only in the form of cards etc?
there is no mention of anything else

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InkHeart2024 · 19/12/2024 09:23

Have you shared this with the school?

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Mumples · 19/12/2024 12:37

Yes, they said there was nothing specifically about schools events so they can’t stop it!
I can’t imagine a court order would list in detail places he can and can’t go….?

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InkHeart2024 · 19/12/2024 12:40

The school said that? I would write to the head with a copy of the order and request that they consult their or the local authority legal department (if they are an academy trust they should have their own) to advise them whether the order allows them to bar him from the grounds and events. I would be saying that this is your interpretation of the order and if they don't obtain advice and continue to allow him access to the children contrary to the order you will need to make a formal complaint.

TickingKey46 · 19/12/2024 17:13

I had an indirect order for my children but it also said that after a certain time if indirect contact did not take place, it would go to a no contact order.
Which is what happened.
I'm not sure if he's broken the order or not. But practically speaking, even if he has, what realistically can be done about it?
Personally I wouldn't fully record what happened and how the children were effected. I would also ask the school to record it. Then hope it was a one off.

Soggydog · 19/12/2024 17:15

Yes he has broken it as an indirect contact order means he is not allowed direct contact. I would contact your solicitor for advice on how to proceed.

BluebellTimeInKent · 19/12/2024 17:30

Yes, he's breaching the order which is for "indirect contact only." Not "indirect contact and some direct contact at a time of the father's choosing including hassling the children at their school."

Don't contact him directly. Go back to court and get a non molestation order making clear that he is not to contact you or the children directly, and is not to go to their school.

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Mumples · 19/12/2024 20:55

Hey,
thank you…. I did in the end and she confirmed he has. Amongst other things she said to log it with the police.
Thank you for all your help and advise

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Mumples · 19/12/2024 20:57

Thank you Bluebell….
im going to do that. It’s all just so nerve wracking, the combo of the family court system and him makes me into a mess, but that’s what I’ll be doing.
thank you for awesome advise

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