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Jealous of ex’s new partner. Why?!

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MagicNL · 07/12/2024 09:21

Hi Everyone,

maybe I’m just musing on a Saturday morning as I do the usual breakfast, housework, childcare etc..

my ex was seeing someone else and I found out. It’s probably been going on for years and we separated a year ago. divorce is underway. I kicked him out when I found out straight away and that was that.

recently I saw photos of them both together on social media looking like they were having the best time. She looked very attractive and slimmer than me. I have never spoken or contacted her despite wanting to but I’ve been good! I don’t think he’s living with her.

my ex is probably just in a selfish sort of relationship where he is seeing her without the commitment but I’m a bit peeved off he’s not just making it public to me. He says why on earth would he tell me anything about his life.

we were married and had children. He sees the children once a fortnight when it suits him.

my question is, I hate this man for what he did to me. I married him and had 2 beautiful children, he got bored and ran off. Why the hell am I so jealous and upset?!!! Is this normal?!!!!

I really wish I could just move on and block him. I would but we have children so I’m forced to see him and be reminded that I actually loved this man.

any tips?! It’s been a year. I want to move on and live a happy life but I’m so resentful abd full of hate towards him yet jealous of her!!!

my head is scrambled!!!

if anyone has any top tips for shaking off these feelings, I’d love to hear them or even just some positive words! Thanks for reading!

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Wolframandhart · 07/12/2024 09:23

Get a proper plan of contact in place where you get free time and build up your social life.

block him on social media.

rainbowbee · 07/12/2024 09:33

Perhaps just have a WhatsApp with him regarding arrangements for the children. Block all other social media. It's curated to look like people's 'best lives' but at the end of the day he's a cheat and she knows it.
A man cheated on me 10 years ago, and went off with the other woman. They have been blocked from the beginning. I know that every so often the woman makes fake Social media profiles to try to spy on me, even ten years later.
She'll never be secure with him. That's her problem and her karma. Block today and start to move on.

RubyRedBow · 07/12/2024 09:35

Block them on SM and make him see the kids more often so you have time to have a fun life too.

WindyRedAlert · 07/12/2024 09:59

And if anyone tries to run your nose in it just say : He's her problem now not mine .

MagicNL · 07/12/2024 10:12

Thank you
I have blocked him on sm but stupidly I looked at a person who was bosting about her amazing birthday party. Lo and behold, I saw it full of couples all dressed up. One was my ex and her.
ive told all my friends to block him. They all said they did it ages ago!
I email him childcare dates and it has allowed me to meet someone else but I think I’m a little bit in the “all men are selfish” mindset….

the really annoying thing is that he is nice. He will ask about the children then the next day go off to see her. It’s like a guilt thing.

sorry….the replies are helping. I’m just so confused. I’m not sad, just going crazy! 🤪

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