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He broke up with me and want to be there for me and the kids.

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ThisWarmLion · 03/12/2024 12:29

My husband of 10 years broke up with me after coming back from deployment because he lost his grandmar and doesn’t feel he can be what we need and is worried if he snaps we will never view him the same way. I wasn’t there for him when he needed me but he reasurred me he was waiting to come home to us so we could help him. Not just that but said he doesn’t love me and doesn’t see a future with me at all but he still wants to be best friends. He’s always been a family man and He’s been really supportive helping me and doing things for the kids while I’m sat here sore unable to eat and drink and staring at the same wall for hours upon end. He’s still coming round to do Xmas and everything, cuddling me if I need it and questioning why everytime I cry he even wanted to keep our wedding photos and that’s why I can’t let go of hope that one day he will want me again and he says I’m going round in circles with questions and thoughts. He told me this is the last day moping I have to get up and sort myself out and that it will take time but I still have him. I don’t think I could cope with the pain of seeing him move on (said that’s not what he plans to do) Thing is I’ve heard of no contact rule would this be beneficial? Do I accept he’s always going to be around but in a non romantical way? I am a complete mess and my mind is doing overtime and I can’t let go I’m so lonely I don’t have family here and I don’t have friends Because I gave all that up to move around with him. All I have is hope and in the end I’ll end up heartbroken again.

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Karatema · 03/12/2024 15:28

Flowers Didn't want to read and run.

Anyone, after a death in the family, will feel torn about their own relationships. This is especially true for military personnel.

You need to find out what he intends to do so you know where you stand especially concerning Married Quarters, if you live there.

You sound like you are willing to allow him to string you along for as long as he likes but this is not healthy for you or your DC.

Your first priority should be your DC. Don't let them down.

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