Unsure what to do...

[unsurewhat2do]

Someone thought you knowledgeable parents may be able to help me out with this
Thanks...

Not really sure I have anything useful to suggest.

How do the DC's feel about him? Were they close to him before he left? As difficult as it will be, you have to put the best interests of the DC's first so if you think he will disappear in time it may be best to end contact now. If, on the other hand he is reliable and you all still have a good relationship it may be a good idea to continue seeing him.

He may be avoiding your family for your mum's sake or because he's feeling guilty at what he's done.

I hope someone comes along with some experience in this area that can help more than me!!

You haven't explained the length or depth of the relationship he had with your dc's so it's hard to offer any advice at the mo, UW2D.

Who is likely to suffer most if he does see your children? (Your mum, perhaps). Perhaps you could bring it up with her and mention that you feel the break up is a sad loss to your children. She may say to go ahead and contact him. On the other hand, if they have only recently broken up, it might be best to wait a while.

The important thing is what your DCs think.

Just really what other posts say, that your children always come first. If they want to see him, then I think they should.

(your mum may be upset, but your children come first. Im sure when you explain that to her she will understand).

The relationship may fizzle out naturally anyway, and its still early days.

Let him go, he done a bunk with another woman and he has only seen your children twice in 4 months, that speaks volume in itself, I doubt very much he would have kept regular contact and your children are only 6 and 2, it might be a little harder on the 6 year old but the 2 year old probably wouldnt even know who he was if you bumped into him in the street, I would have some loyalty towards your mum who is probably hurting really bad at the moment, this man doesn't sound a good role model at all

Hi Unsure.
Personally, I would let him go. He has proven himself to be dishonest and untrustworthy. We had a similar situation with my uncle who cheated on my auntie. For my auntie's sake we don't have contact with him anymore. Although we do miss him in some ways he has hurt my aunt so much and I would feel disloyal to her by letting him have contact. It's a bit Mitchell-esque but when he betrayed my auntie he betrayed the whole family.

Personally, I think the world should be a bit more Mitchell-esque, Popple.