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Would he get joint custody?

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caityvh · 17/11/2024 15:35

My ex partner is so ridiculously forgetful, irresponsible and clumsy that he is genuinely a danger to our kids. To clarify he's not intentionally dangerous but there are so many examples of his carelessness leading to danger.

He's let the pram (with baby in) roll into road, moved furniture so child can climb up balcony railings, numerous dangerous driving scenarios with kids in car, seatbelts not on properly, almost injured baby by not putting crib up properly, leaves wires and sharp things around, there are dozens more.
On top of that he also never thinks of the fact they need water, food or the right level of clothing for the temperature.

As I say, there is no bad intent from him just severe lack of thought - the sort of reasons you wouldnt let a child look after babies.

In an ideal world where I think he's responsible enough I'd like co-parenting, but I just don't trust him looking after them. Wondering what likely scenario would be if I went for just visitation instead of 50/50? Note: they're 12 months and 2.5 years.

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TickingKey46 · 17/11/2024 16:10

Problem is that he's still going to do these things even if he only has them for half an hour a week!
Could you suggest a parenting class? Would he likely go to one? Or maybe you could both go?
Also a lot of men really step up once parents have separated. It's like they no longer have the other parent to rely on. So start thinking for themselves etc.

caityvh · 17/11/2024 19:26

@TickingKey46 thanks yeah a parenting class would be great, I just don't think I'd get him to attend.
Interesting point on stepping up once he has them alone... hadn't thought of that. Just worries me as 2.5year old is non verbal so he won't ask for a drink or food etc

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