Christmas

[BabyPandaa]

Any other single parents struggling with the thought of Xmas this year? Please tell me I’m not the only one who doesn’t have any family (or ex) buy their kids things for Xmas? Everywhere I look people are saying how spoilt their kids are at Xmas with TVs and games consoles from grandparents, which no doubt takes pressure off parents but it’s so difficult when you are the only one who buys for your children and this year is going to be a struggle 😢

I understand 💐

I don't think they'll be a single present under the tree for DS from anyone in the family except a selection box maybe. I manage to make up the shortfall, but I really wish my parents/siblings made an effort.

Thanks over the years I have taken out a loan to cover Xmas as I really didn’t want to let my kids down and have them feel they are missing something but not having family that spoil them so I’ve taken out loans to make sure they have a good Xmas but I won’t be able to this year so they will notice the difference and I’m dreading it.

Not a lone parent ( well possibly on the way to becoming one but that’s another day’s work!), but similar boat, kids not spoiled but Christmas is the only time they get toys etc and we’re not in a great way financially so terrified (I had the stupidest idea I’d save a fiver every week for Christmas but it went on the car later in the year). I just keep reminding myself that things like games nights, movies and tubs of celebrations, as well as crisps and fizzy drinks are all that’s really needed at Christmas. Plus a chocolate advent calendar! Hope things get easier for you. Remember Christmas is about family, and you’re all your child needs. Xxxxxxxxx

It won't help you this year I know, but one of the ways I've managed to make the present pile look ok in previous years is for it to include essentials like new pyjamas or toothbrushes or other things they actually need. It means some of the presents are a bit boring - to them - but it helps with the volume and means that I'm spending money on things I will need to get anyway. Also, could your DC "give" small things to each other, as that can help?

These are the things. I think it’s the traditions and the family. I was in same position. No one else to buy for us. I’ve also been in terrible poverty. So I really feel for you. Are you involved with any children’s charity? They sometimes provide gifts.
but echo the above- it’s you that the child needs. But I truly know the missing feeling

I am a single parent but have family. It's hard being a parent and struggling. I've totally cut back. No big present but my daughters 11 so into skin and make up and those are not cheap. I've got her a few bits off TikTok and also some pjs and bathbombs. If I can then I will give her a small amount of money or a gift card. My sister ordered a pair of basically dupe Nike trainers of hacoo for her too and Nike socks which saved me a fortune. I will however do her a nice Xmas eve box as we love Xmas eve with a nice film and making Xmas cookies even though she knows Santa isn't real she loves the magic. Genuinely it's not about presents it's about the magic and spending time and making your money we traditions. Games are great, a Xmas movie on Xmas even with pjs (home bargains are great priced) and a wee hot chocolate, a Xmas cookie making box from home bargains. These are what your children will remember. Sending hugs xxxx

thanks for the comments, i guess i just feel guilty because i see so many posts from people who go halves with their ex for all the latest items like iphone 16 consoles tvs and then grandparents buying hoards of presents so i’ve always made sure my kids had loads to make up for my lack of family but this year it will be a noticeable difference 😔