Just wanted some thoughts on this. So I was thinking of reaching out to my ex, well not technically as he contacted me first in the summer, but the children told me they didn't want to see him because of how long he has been absent (18 months) and the fact he constantly messed them around and was never consistent, however I'm a big believer that parents shouldn't just get to walk away from their children and I hate that so many men get to walk away as if their kids don't exist, imo it's wrong (obviously abuse aside) I hate that so many men get away with this, I know some would hope to be in my situation and hope their ex didn't bother but I am a big believer that children need both parents. I went with what they said but I think if he is consistent from now on they may give him another chance so how can I get him to prove he is going to stick around this time? I did tell him the kids didn't want contact because to quote from them "he will just go again" he said he won't this time 🤦🏻♀️ those who have been in this situation and ex been absent for a long time how did they prove themselves to be consistent going forward? And would you reach out to him or wait to see if he gets in contact again? Please dont say not to only advice on how to build this up and how he can show he is going to be consistent and regular this time round