Am I too independent for a relationship?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

I am always being told that I'm independent.

Even men tell me that I'm too independent and that I don't need anybody.

So I sometimes think I will never be in a realtionship again. I think men like to be needed.

I know some women who are unbelievably needy, but they are married. What chance have got? I seem to attract people who want something from me, and not for me, if you know what I mean!

I don't even think there are many single decent men out there now, as the best ones seem to snatched up. Im nearly 40

I come across as very independant too, I guess I am, but sometimes I wish I was the kind of girl that men jus fall over themselves trying to do stuff for. It's only ever a fleeting thought though!

There are men out there who like independant women, they are usually just as independant and don't need looking after either.

It does seem all the decent men are snatched up though doesn't it?

What kind of relationship do you want to be in though? I think you can have very succesful relationships as well as being independant, and some men do find that an attractive quality.

I'd love to be in a relationship with a man who loves me and my children. He needs to be loyal, supportive and strong. Someone who is good for me really, instead of me always being the strong one.

The only single men I have spoken to lately:

1. had no teeth
2. was a nerd
3. was too drunk!

I think some men can be threatened by independent women, but then you're not going to want that kind of man anyway!
There is nothing wrong with being choosy and waiting to find the right person.
I don't believe you're ever too old to find love, my Step Mum got together with my Dad when she was in her 50's and she had been single and independent for years (through choice).
Maybe I'm just hopeful...

It's sad but true that a lot of men (probably the majority) are a bit threatened by independent, intelligent women - or if they don't feel threatened by them, they can come up with all sorts of reasons for not actually dating them and often 'just happen' to always date fucked up whining bimbos.
There are nice men out there who can cope with women on equal terms; they are a bit harder to find but worth waiting for (try Guardian SOulmates for intelligent, liberal-thinking men though often the best ones will have a kid or two of their own).
Be wary, though, of the man who goes on and on about how much he loves independent women. He might be the sort of man who loves finding strong women and systematically destabilising them.

Yes, I work with a "fucked up whining bimbos" who is married. And she has the nerve to look down on me as I am single!!!

I tried guardian soul mates. The only guy who called me was still married (though he was separated, he said, and only lived with his wife whilst finalising things). So how come he only ever called me at midnight, when I assume she was asleep??? And, no, his name wasn't Dracula; I'd have understood that at least!

I would have thought a strong independent woman would be more appealling. I wish I was more independnt, and didn't still feel the need to call on the nearest male to change my fuse etc! (have been living alone for nearly a year & finding some of these jobs rather a new challenge!)

I am not a messed up whining bimbo though, and know my new DP doesn't find that kind of woman attractive at all. The girlfriend he had before me was messed up, and only lasted 2 months for this reason.

You know what I want amazinwoman? A man who could look after me, but doesn't feel he needs to.

I just cant bring myself to sit there and do the needy bimbo thing although like you say, they seem to do much better!

I really laugh at women who cant change a light bulb or paint a wall...its not really that hard is it?

i think there are a lot of married guys on soulmates...

i dont know how easy it is find someone when you get older as the equivalent men do seem to be crap

i dont think men try as hard as women and if they do they are taken lol

when my ex dumped me iahd had my 50th birthdayn three weeks before and apart from being devastated that my life had fallen apart i thought omg that is it for sex for life now

in fact it hasnt been

but i do think sometimes what is going to happen in the future and not knowing is hard

but i guess we never know that

if you are independent then you just need someone who is similar

the only problem is if you want commitment maybe you wont get it

i dont know the whole relationship thing is far harder than when i was 19