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Another one on a first date

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glitterfairy · 24/04/2008 21:33

Well yes I have a date tomorrow and hopefully not with a nutter. Actually I do know him anyway and he asked and I sort of said yes.

I am panicking about leaving my kids for the evening more than the date. Am also at my fattest and most frumpy at the moment but somehow dont really care!

It was nice to be asked but I so dont really want a full on relationship so am taking things very very slowly.

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charliecat · 24/04/2008 21:51

Oeeer so where do you know him from and why are you panicking about leaving your kids? Havent you before

goingbonkers · 24/04/2008 21:58

Good luck - let us know how it goes!

How old are the DC's? I'm sure they will be fine. Go and enjoy yourself and a well earned bit of adult time!
xx

Pinkchampagne · 24/04/2008 22:55

Ohh, how exciting, GF! You must report back!

I went on a date in the summer, thinking I definitely didn't want a full on relationship etc. 8 months later we are still together & all that has gone out of the window!

littlewoman · 24/04/2008 23:03

Glitterfairy, was it you I was talking to ages ago at 2 in the morning? Hope he's lush, anyway. Good luck!!

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glitterfairy · 25/04/2008 07:40

Thanks guys. I am worrying about the kids as I have arranged to meet for picnic at 4.30 and want to be back to give them supper.

Cant weigh up whether or not to call my dad and ask him to wait with them or just hope I am back in time and spend my time worrying about getting home.

OK I know no brainer and I will call my dad so I can relax. Kids are 13, 12 and 9 but incredibly sensible and used to me returning late from work.

He is a man I met years ago and have just contacted again by chance.

Hello PC you sound great hope life is treating you well.

One of my friends sent me this piece of advice which made me laugh my socks off.

Shave armpits and legs drink loads of water tonight put soda bic on teeth sort out eyebrows cool cotton wool on eyes go to bed now making sure clothes are all ready ask to see his bank statements almost forgot clean ears laugh at all his jokes make sure he pays I don?t believe in all this feminine stuff anymore have a great time x

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littlewoman · 26/04/2008 01:59

I bet you looked bloody lovely in bed with all that crap over your face. I'm just imagining the bicarb on your teeth. lol. Hope it pays off anyway and you look and feel fab for tomorrow

madamez · 26/04/2008 02:05

Anyone who goes on a date expecting it to immediately become a full on relationship is completely mental. A date is a way of finding out how much you like someone, it confers no obligtations other than the usual ones of civilised interaction (don't shit on the floor, don't bite the other person, if you're not having a good time and feel you have to cut it short, be polite about it).
Hey, have fun.

littlewoman · 26/04/2008 02:12

Oh, yes, definitely don't shit on the floor - even if you don't want a full-on relationship Madamez, how do you think up these mental images? lol.

madamez · 26/04/2008 03:07

Oh, I have a fairly diversesocial life, LW. Should have added: don't ask him back again if he wipes his cock on the curtains.

Pinkchampagne · 26/04/2008 10:38

How did it go, GF?

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glitterfairy · 26/04/2008 10:59

LOLOL! The image of shitting on the floor will stay with me forever!

It went really well and yes we are going out again. We planned quite a lot actually, trips here there and everywhere.

I do kind of know him anyway so it is not like we were meeting for the first time. Even if nothing really comes of it I think I have a male friend for life who will go with me to parties and the cinema, take me out and accompany me to stuff.

In a way that is part of what I miss about marriage someone to do things with and I have lived not doing those things for a long time.

He is clever and funny and likes the same things I do and I am going to take things very very slowly with any man from now on so he is just a really good friend. He texted me this morning and we have made a date for dinner and a gallery and this is just fun.

At last though I have a male friend to be a pair with again and can also live my life the way I want which is fab.

PC how are you?

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glitterfairy · 26/04/2008 11:01

I would add I have lived not doing these things partly through choice but also to allow my kids plenty of me time and time to get over my abusive x but it is now time for us all to move on to the next stage of life.

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Pinkchampagne · 27/04/2008 21:31

So pleased it went well, GF.

I am fine thanks. I have just spent Sat night & most of today with my man, while the boys were with their dad.
I normally see him when the boys are with their dad or in bed, as like you, I am being careful around the children.

Hope all works well for you, GF.
I took things very slowly at first. It was very daunting going out with a man again, and I felt quite scared at the thought of a relationship, so took it one date at a time.
Fell in love with him within a few months though!

You deserve a lovely man to spoil you!

mehdismummy · 27/04/2008 21:40

oi where have u been pink

littlewoman · 27/04/2008 21:46

Hooray!! Glad it was fun. So exciting for you.

Madamez, I'm off to buy blinds lol

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glitterfairy · 27/04/2008 21:46

LOl PC thought you were saying you saw him in bed for a moment there.

i am really pleased everything has worked out so well for you and that you are deservedly happy.

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Pinkchampagne · 27/04/2008 22:41

Lol! I guess I do sometimes, GF, but I meant when the boys were in bed!!

MM - having terrible trouble with my PC, so not online much.

Keep us updated won't you, GF!

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glitterfairy · 28/04/2008 07:41

Of course, but he is away this week in any case and honestly probably only a really good friend at the moment.

My youngest did tell my X yesterday though that I was seeing other men which made me laugh! He asked if I was happy and she said, oh yes much more than when she was with you. Bless her!

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