Yesterday, DS16 was the last of our kids to refuse to stay with his dad anymore and came home in tears. His twin DD stopped going years ago but would love her dad to spend more time with her. My older children DS17/DS20 are both no contact with my ex.
I just feel so sad that it's come to this, that he's let them down so spectacularly and left me to handle all the parenting. He pays maintenance, sees them 3-4 times a year, throws money at them.
All the boys have ASD, DD is being assessed. She's been with CAHMS for a year after becoming suicidal, and I attend family therapy with her and take her to CBT.
My twins were so distressed last night after their father blamed it all on them and drove off. My 20 yo won't even talk about it. My 17yo is so hurt he's buried it deep. I just feel useless as a mother to be enough parent for all of them when I am struggling hugely with anxiety, depression and grief after my DF and dog died.