Does anyone else hate those mixed groups with both single parents? None of the single fathers seem to believe that some fathers don't actually want to see their children they always always believe that the man is being stopped and that the mum doesn't want the father to see the child, i said I would have loved 50/50 but my ex never wanted it and got told "how many times did he try to see them before you stopped him and he gave up!!" Err he didn't! He's never wanted to be a father to them and told me I trapped him into having them and he will never have them or take responsibility for them and he will never have them as it means "giving me a break" 🙄 he literally viewed having the kids as giving me a break!
He refused to have them overnight told me I shouldn't have had them if I didn't want to be with them all the time. Yet apparently I've stopped him and he has just given up "fighting" he would tell them he was coming down to see them then not show up or cancel at 2am the night before, he even cancelled seeing my daughter on her birthday because I didn't lend him money! I know some women don't want their exes involved and I have witnessed that myself but I think that's a minority and most do want their ex to be involved, I don't get any breaks or time off to myself and truth be told I would be much better off financially if he had them overnight given that I don’t get a penny in maintenance and have them full time he only wanted to see them for the day and take them to the local park for a couple of hours and couldn't even stick to that without constantly cancelling i did nothing but Beg him to be more involved even allowed contact in my house and let him stay over just so be would see them but when I stopped allowing it in my house he couldnt be bothered.
I would like to date again and have a life to myself but in order to do that I would have to spend £££ on a babysitter so I haven’t bothered, I also have seen the upset my children have gone through not having a father involved (no contact for 18 months) why do some men not believe their are fathers out there that don’t want to see their children?I actually feel jealous of people who have involved exes and get days to themselves even if it’s just eow as I’ve never had that but they seem to think single mums are all men haters who keep their children away from the father.