When we divorced last year in our joint statement of how often exH would see DCs was that he would have them both every other weekend and one night each week.
However since we separated in 06 he has had them together for one full weekend when I was away for work.
Other than that he tends to have them for 24 hours at max often changing at short notice and finds it hard to commit to specific weekdays unless at short notice.
It's like I am always prodding him up the arse to find out exactly when he is seeing them and I find I can't make many plans in advance.
he has a new p and she is pg with twins so I can't see situation improving. Things complicated further by the fact he has to go away on business a fair bit.
Since Xmas I have been logging exactly when he sees them and he has just come back from a trip to say that this weekend he can't have them cos there is a celebration dinner on Sat and the following weekend he is going away!! When I asked if he had though of taking DCs with them he said it was too xpensive.
I have suggested to him that we formalise arrangement but my question is do you think it will be worth it. Would I use solicitor or apply to the courts. And what's to say it will improve matters.
The DCs notice when they don't see him and they aren't in a routine and I can't plan any life of my own.