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How to beat heartbreak as a single parent? Help 😭

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Overthinker89 · 18/09/2024 22:00

My logical brain is telling me to just get on with it and focus on my son. I do of course as my LO is my number 1 priority but at night, in bed, I feel incredibly sad and to be honest quite alone.

Anyone got any tips. It's not even that serious. I was dating a guy for 3 months who suddenly did a uturn and cut things off. He said it was his mental health ( he said that he is struggling with depression etc.) It came out of the blue. I'm a few years down the line of being separated from my sons Dad and I miss coming home to a hug or someone to be on my team.. You know, someone warm in the bed next to you. Just another person. I am so lucky to have plenty of friends and hobbies and things to bring me joy but it hurts and I just want to hear how other dealt with this sadness. And losing a relationship while parenting. I know it was only a few months so I should be able to just shrug it off but I work with him so I see him at work sometimes (different organisations but the same shared office building) and it seems to take me back to square one. My LO is two :)

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Freetodowhatiwant · 18/09/2024 22:08

Ahh it's intense isn't it? Realistically you probably didnt want to be with him and he problably wasnt right for you but being slept up with it much harder when you dont have that much free time to go out and distract yourself and you have a lot of lonely evenings on your own, well as the only adult, to content with. They two or three break ups I have had since my divorce have hit hard too.

I remind myself of all the bad things. realise they weren't right for me anyway and get back out there and start having fun, seeing friends and dating as soon as I have free nights! Write a list of all his bad points and refer to it regularly and distract yourself as much as possible with things that make you feel good.

WhatToDo1234567 · 18/09/2024 22:12

Ooooof I went through a breakup last year in similar circumstances ~ hugs 💐

It does slowly get better. Eat ice cream, don't be too hard on yourself. Hug your LO more than normal! That all helped me. Overall it really sucks though no matter how you spin it 😂

I enjoyed getting back on a dating app quickly as a bit of an ego boost and reminder of how many fish there are in the sea. It didn't lead to any dates as my heart wasn't in it but it helped.

Also, if you enjoy sex, spend a little more time with your toys. At the risk of TMI, when I realised I could give myself what I was missing I stopped longing for my ex quite so badly 😏

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