Going against instincts to make life easier?

[PepaWepa]

I'm soon to be a single parent for the second time.

First time (8 years ago), he wanted an abortion, I didn't get one, so I was a single parent from birth. I bonded really well with baby, was quite anxious though and she was a baby that didn't like to be put down, so was literally attached to me 24/7. I breastfed for 18 months and co-slept, and didn't sleep for 2 years. Her diet was a bit ott, all organic etc etc.

I'm now nearly 5 months pregnant and I've ended things with partner. He wants to be involved so I will have some support, but I will be a single parent from birth again. I put too much extra pressure and stress on myself the first time round which I feel could be avoided this time by not breastfeeding, making sure baby sleeps in his/her own cot, and making sure I take care of myself and my DD properly which I feel would involve leaving baby to cry for a bit occasionally. This would be going against my instincts though from what I remember with my DD. I just want make things as easy as possible as I really struggled first time in the initial years.

Its a personal choice but if you don’t BF he can overnights sooner dont know if that will be a good thing or a bad thing for you? So many women see it as a bad thing and want to make sure their exes don’t get overnights for as long as possible. Something to think about

I found breastfeeding with a toddler exhausting. I was constantly trying to do puzzles with him on the floor while feeding. Do what makes it easy for you!

The first time I left DS1 to cry it out he’d stopped by the time I reached the stairs.

I think as a first time mum we don’t help ourselves with the guild but less fuss is what they need sometimes.

Good luck!