does anyone else ever feel this way?

[Clumsy12345]

does anyone else feel sad not having someone to share the special times with and parenting in general? took my kids out yesterday and although we had a nice day i cant help but feel sad that i have no one to share these days and memories with, its not early days ive been single for 7 years i just still feel sad about not having that person to share parenting with and bring up children with (not my ex i dont miss him just a general sadness about it which hasn't gone away) it must be amazing bringing up a child/children in a loving relationship

Yes, I feel this. I do send photos/updates to my sister and other friends/loved ones but it’s not the same. But tbh I did everything with the DC before the split so it isn’t much different now.

Yes me too. I've just had a lovely day out enjoying the last of the summer holiday sun with my 3 but there is no one to share silly anecdotes from the day with. I take loads of photos but no one to send them to as I think my family are sick of getting them now (wasn't a huge over sharer before divorce so seems strange to them that I do it now).
I see families everywhere - and it just makes me feel so sad. My eldest has ended up with a pseudo second parent role keeping an eye on the little ones for me or watching one whilst I take the other to the loo and I feel sad she can't enjoy a carefree childhood like others I see.

i dont bother to send photos to anyone they aren’t particularly interested and definitely not the same. i think there will always be a sadness for me it’s actually worse when we’ve had a nice day as i think how nice it must be to share those days with someone 😢

I agree it's worse after a good day out. I'm sat here now editing photos from today that are just lovely but just get saved in my cloud. Although my eldest being a bit older has asked me to send her a few from today as we had such a good time so that's made me feel a bit better. I've noticed I even feel quite upset/tearful before leaving the house recently whilst getting everyone ready as it's all on me, sorting where we are going how we get there what we do, what we pack for a picnic or where we might eat out. It's the constant solo decision making and pressure to have a good time/give them a nice day out/deal with the inevitable tantrums from overtired kids

I totally get it OP. I feel the same, dont want my ex back but I do have residual sadness about the end of the relationship and not having someone to share the highs and lows with. DD's dad has very little contact or involvement with her and whilst I know logically that's on him, I feel sad and guilty that DD isn't being raised within a happy relationship

I think this is one of the things I struggle with the most. I have it after lovely days out but also when my kids to something funny or achieve something that I am incredibly proud of. I miss having that other parent to share with 😔

i’m so glad it’s not just me, I didn’t know anyone else felt the same so it’s reassuring that it’s normal. we went to the beach and my son was telling me how a dad had built his son a deep hole in the sand and he was so excited when he was telling me how great it was and i just felt a bit sad and guilty that my son had never grown up with that father / son relationship. (yes i know i could have built him one too but that isn’t the point it was just the way his face lit up when he told me about it)