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Relationship ending?

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shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 27/08/2024 15:48

I know it's not a big deal to end a 3 month relationship but sometimes posting on Mumsnet helps me be honest with myself so...
Contemplating ending things due to what might be conflict in the future and some 'ick's" and his current living situation (which is probably enough)

But anyway

Conflicts: he's been a step father before and has two children. When he talks about his step child I think, I don't want you talking to my child like that.
It wasn't even anything bad but EVERY story consists of him and his ex (mother of all 3 children) having differing opinions. Him wanting things done a certain way and her being 'soft' red flag number 1

Ick's being annoying on purpose to be 'cute' tbf I have not told him I hate it, but from previous experience when you tell them they're being annoying (which they know they are and are doing it in that horrible boys poking girls way) you get sighs like 'you're no fun' or worse they smile and say 'I know, it because you're cute when your annoyed or I know I'm bored' it is such a big ick! It's happened before so I do not react AT ALL he does tiny pinches of my thigh trousers doesn't hurt at all but very annoying

There are a few other ick's but that's the main one

The other issue is his living arrangements, he lives in a shared house (own room and bathroom) as he's separating from his ex (married) he is also waiting for settled status

There are a lot of things I like about him but I've been abroad and I'm not desperate to see him (we have met up once) he definitely feels strongly in his feelings to me.

I don't want to overthink but I do not want to end up with an annoying cock lodger who tries to discipline my child.

I wouldn't let it get to that stage but I could see him trying for that in the future.

OP posts:
TransformerZ · 27/08/2024 15:48

End it.
He's a loser.

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 27/08/2024 15:54

I've also had my heart broken twice. Once by my daughters dad whom I was married to for 10 years.

I dated an overgrown man baby for 3 years after that

Had a narrow escape from a pure narcissist

Dated a man for 2 years who I fell for but had poor mental health and ended things in an unfair way to me. He's probably the one who got away but it wasn't working as he wasn't well (heartbreak)

Dated a boring nice guy for 6 months

Now this guy

Sharing because I think I have a self esteem problem but also have built a life that I like and I might be subconsciously picking people that won't last so I don't have to let them in (to hurt me or to make me lose what I've built up)

I've never lived with anyone since my daughters dad, I did talk about it with the guy with poor mental health but none of the others

Am I making walls too high?

OP posts:
shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 27/08/2024 15:55

TransformerZ · 27/08/2024 15:48

End it.
He's a loser.

😂 nice and to the point!

Think I'm using mumsnet as a journal

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TransformerZ · 27/08/2024 16:01

You're picking losers because you think that's all you deserve.
You don't.

Don't date anyone without property, settled status - they will use you for a way into the country and your property.

Don't date anyone with mental health issues - you're not a nurse. Life is too short to get bogged down with other people's problems.

Don't let anyone move in with you.
Date whilst living separately.
Men are not decent anymore - they use women for houses, money and treat their kids like crap.
Stepfathers and men in the home are not good for children.
Only desperate women allow men to move into their homes when they have kids.
All that can wait once your kid is at university.

Never marry anyone now - you've got a kid, what's the point?

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