I'm in the process of getting divorced and finding it infuriatingly hard to get my stbxh to talk about when he will see our DD (age 6). I'd assumed at the beginning that we'd start with 50:50 as the discussion point and then figure out what works best. But it's become clear over the past few months that his ideal is to see her once a week (with no overnights) and he apparently can't commit to a regular pattern. (This is utter tosh - he could easily choose to do so.) He keeps using the term 'co-parenting' and I finally made him acknowledge this evening that he doesn't want to do that, he's fine with me being a lone parent.
It's obvs really difficult logistically for me to have no cover during the week. But mostly I'm so heartbroken for my daughter; she doesn't know yet that we've split up and she adores him. He's always been very involved up to this point and they have a very sweet, affectionate and close relationship. I feel like I'm in a race against time to make him see what he's risking but withdrawing from her life. And I'm furious that he's decided to ditch his responsibility to her, and the rest of us are left to pick up the pieces.
Does anyone have experience of a partner who wanted to run away like this, but was convinced to put the effort in?