Anyone want to hear my whinge/moan/bitch about Ex?

[Tippychick]

Don't blame you if not

So my XP is staying this week, seeing my 18mo daughter for the first time this year. He wants to get back together and one of the reasons our relationship broke down was over his chronic unreliability with money, work and laziness. Plus manky hygiene/self respect issues as per previous icky thread.

So while I'm working and he's dossing at my house he's helping with housework right? Making a huge effort to show how he's changed? Offering to help out and actually following through?

Nope, I find out he's given up his job. He's stayed up past 1am every night watching DVDs and I've had to get him out of bed every morning as he wants to drop DD at nursery. I've had to call him repeatedly, does he still think I'm his Mum?
He has left a trail of mess throughout every room in the house, done nothing all day while I'm at work and last night took himself off to bed when I was getting DD to sleep around 7 and stayed there. While I washed up, did all the housework, cleared up after him etc. Then I STILL had to shout him out of bed this morning.

AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, rant over.

Oh actually, forgot a couple. He won't flush the loo or put the loo seat down, he's used nail scissors etc from my bathroom cabinets and left them all dirty in a pool water by the sink, He didn't have a toothbrush so he bought one, on Monday - and unwrapped it yesterday PM. Ewwwwww

Over now I promise

and you are putting up with this, why ??

So what's your point?

Sorry, don't mean to wind you up. Of course he wants to move back in and yes he does think you're his mother. Why does he think you might want to be with him? Actually, he doesn't does he, he hasn't considered your wants or needs. He just wants to be with you, so that's good enough for him. Unbelievable. I sympathise, and hope the visit passes quickly.

I don't have a point really, I was just using this as a place to rant. Thought that was OK, sorry if not.

I am putting up with it cos I realise he won't change and as I said, he hasn't seen my DD for 4 months. if you had seen the joy on her face when she saw him you'd know why I am gritting my teeth at home and venting here.

Sorry, were they real questions? I just noticed the smileys. Am I having a dim moment?

He won't flush the loo.....

it may be quite a small thing, but that would be a relationship killer for me.......

I'm assuming he isn't considering the effect on the environment / water usuage?

Tell him that you deserve better than this as the mother of his child.

Tell him to leave unless he can be a grown-up visitor.

get him out of your house as quickly as possible.

men!

(and women before LD starts )

Also does he plan to see your dd more regukarky? surely it won't be good for her if he maintains an ad-hoc relationship waltzing in and out as and when - being there for a week then not at all.. in all seriousness you do need to think about the impact a relationship like that could have on your dd

Get him a hutch in the garden for next time he wants to stay.

Can't believe you put up with him, tbh.

He sounds like a child - and a pretty gormless one at that.

It also sounds like he knows damn well that you want him to have a good relationship with your DD at all costs, (don't blame you, btw, who wouldn't?) and as he is using that as an excuse to take the mickey.

Lay down some ground rules - there is no reason why your DD seeing her father means you have to put up with being treated like this.

This is actually very very good. It reminds you exactly WHY you don't want to be with him.

I only hope when it gets to the end of the week, you can actually get the fecker out of the house!

and take pics of all the mess, and write down all the complaints and put it all in a folder, so if he asks you to try again, you can get him to take a look through the file, entitled "Why X is a manky bastard who will NEVER see my fanjo again" while you take 10 minutes to piss yourself laughing.

LOL- I agree hecate!
My 11 year old can flush the loo & put the lid down and (mostly!) manages to brush his teeth. Sorry you're stuck being his mum this week.
Sending positive vibes to get you through the remainder of the week x x

PMSL hecate

Tippychick, I was being ironic. I'm so sorry if you thought I was being horrible. It was meant to be funny and make you laugh

I'm going to make a folder as it is such a cool heading

You're alright littlewoman, I was being gormless.

I'm going to make hecat's No Fanjo folder and leave it on my coffee table to flick through when I'm feeling low!

god, I would be arranging visits NOT in my house in future. He sounds really annoying.

Thanks for the confirmations! He was no better when I lived with him and I think that my disgust radar has gone awry. I'm glad to know that it's not me being picking/OCD/nagging as has been said!

Only a few more days....