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Thinking of Moving Abroad

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Svbloom · 07/08/2024 17:46

Hiya, new to this forum.

I am a 29 single/lone parent to a beautiful toddler (18months) me and his dad are very civil but he lives 2 hours away and visits once every 2 weeks (his choice)

after seeing the riots and protests in my town I no longer feel this is a safe place to raise my child. Iv been thinking of moving abroad for some time since the split only purposely for a better quality of life for me and my child (reasons I won’t delve into) becoming a single parent has taken its toll financially. But now this uproar in the country has done it for me. I don’t want my child to be raised in such a harmful place. I’d like some advice from single mothers who have taken the plunge and emigrated with their little one and what happened with the process after father agreeing to the move.

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Maddy70 · 07/08/2024 17:52

There are horrible things all around the world.

If you are an EU citizen you have more options but the first thing to do is see where you'll be allowed

What are the practicalities?

How will you live?
Ðo you speak the language?

yepyouknow · 07/08/2024 17:54

op. i don’t think you should do this

call it a gut feeling

Aussieland · 07/08/2024 18:02

Do you think their father WILL agree? What support would you have overseas? Childcare? Visa?

Muddyfootprint · 07/08/2024 18:07

We moved overseas from the UK, and it was the hardest but also the best thing we've done. Very hard to learn new systems (schools, GPs, emergency services, even shopping - completely different). It costs us more (well, me because I need to renew my visa every couple of years, whereas my husband and kids have resident status), we need private medical insurance, and we put our kids into English speaking schools, which are private, so that is another cost. Also we had to start from scratch with furnishing a home etc, which is a headache and expensive.

BUT the quality of life is better, we're outdoors a lot more, rent is high but you get a lot more outdoor space... life is slower here, which we enjoy.
It really depends what you're looking for and what is available to you.

You'll need to secure a job before you go, you'll need to be very proactive to build up a friendship base.

We're only allowed to be here because my husband is a citizen here - it wouldn't have been easy otherwise. The kids and I only have uk passports, so no access to EU countries anymore. Do you know which countries would be open to you on your passport?

There are problems everywhere though, as the person above said. Granted, not rioting, though that's a possibility anywhere I suppose, but other issues.

I can't comment on it from a single parent perspective, or on the liklihood of your ex agreeing to the move etc, but the practicalities are very difficult even with his blessing - not to discourage you, but just to make sure you're aware.

Could you move within the UK? I have family in several small towns around the UK, or even villages, and those have no rioting and a generally safer feel. Might be worth thinking what your options are closer to home as well as overseas, as you may be able to find what you're looking for without the stresses and amin of an overseas move.

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