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I want to settle down before its too late.

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kay7 · 14/04/2008 21:34

I get lonely,I have friends who are busy with their lives.I want someone to share my life with.Im jus past 30 I can hear the clock ticking.Should I settle for what I can get or do I risk it and wait for the one?What if he lives in a faraway country.I have my DD to keep me company but sometimes I want adult company.When will it be too late to find a man?Im not desperate, I just dont wanna grow old alone.Maybe Im losing it.All the men interested in me are in their twenties .Where do i get serious men? When is it too late?Is it ever too late?

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Quattrocento · 14/04/2008 21:37

It's never too late - I have friends who met Mr Right in their late thirties/early forties/late forties and early fifties ...

Really.

Chin up

Q

Pinkchampagne · 14/04/2008 21:44

it is never too late - you're still only young, so there is no need to feel you have to rush into anything.

I met my lovely boyfriend at the age of 35, after separating from my ex husband, but was in no hurry to find someone. I would never have just settled for anyone.

Chin up - someone lovely will come along when you're least expecting it!

singledadofthree · 15/04/2008 00:18

hey kay - 30 ish isnt old at all, i'm on my own with three teenagers so obviously not in me 20's. even so, i dont intend just 'settling' for someone in desperation, tho i too want someone to share the rest of my life with.
is easier being a single mum too, ive been told a few times that i'm only likely to find someone who already has kids - not that i mind, would even have another tho may be stuck for space.
so who knows - am sure a decent fella will come along soon enough - would suggest you find one in the same country tho, my last gf lived a couple of hundred miles away, made life rather difficult - is just as well i enjoyed driving, altho it did just about wear me poor little car out.
anyway - happy hunting

littlewoman · 15/04/2008 01:56

Kay, never settle for anything. Living with someone is hard enough, let alone if they are not really what you wanted.
There is not just 'the one' person for you. Lots of people might fulfil your search criteria (sounds like you're going to google him lol). But you need to know what you want. That way, when you see it, you will recognise it. Also you must know what you do not under any circumstances want. And if you see it, drop a guy like a hot potato and move on. There are lots out there. Don't give up, you are so young!!!!

purpleduck · 15/04/2008 02:20

30ish!!
You're just a puppy!
Don't settle, THE ONE will come along

gillybean2 · 15/04/2008 08:33

Don't waste time on a 'make do'. If Mr Right came along while you were with a Mr MakeDo you might miss him!

NotDoingTheHousework · 15/04/2008 08:42

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Tippychick · 15/04/2008 09:16

Bless you, I'm 29 in a month or so and i feel ancient some days too. Isn't there a theory that you stop developing when you go into the long term relationship so your real age is actually when you met your ex? in which case I'm 19 and really should get out more!

Don't settle, I agree, and try to stay positive. There's loads of time, we're not as wrinkly as we feel

FeelingOld · 15/04/2008 12:32

I have no chance then cos I am 43!!(although my friends say I don't look or act my age, bless them).
I too would like to think I will find someone to share the rest of my life with in time, but its not a good idea to settle for second best if you want to be happy and for it to last.

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kay7 · 15/04/2008 19:16

you are all too kind,thanks.ive written the longest google search ever for my mr right.(great idea littlewoman)lol.if only i had a name tho.i google people all the time,i hardly ever turn up with anythin.jus to check if they are wanted ore somethin.i got a promotion today people so im havin a glass of wine when DD goes to bed.

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kay7 · 15/04/2008 19:18

you are all welcome to join me

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piratecat · 15/04/2008 19:19

tippychick, i didn't know it was a theory, I thought it was just me being a dirty old bird, always fancying guys who are 24, when i am late (v late) thirties!! I was 26 when I mwt my ex dh who was 21 ---it was great!!

allgonebellyup · 15/04/2008 21:04

god that theory must be right, i spend my whole life thinking i am 22.

yet i too will be 29 in a month!!

singledadofthree · 15/04/2008 23:23

that explains why i still feel 18. am even told i think and behave like it at times when i just thought it was being around kids so much. a cool theory, i like it, tho doesnt help with the settling down lark.

oh - well done with your promotion too

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kay7 · 16/04/2008 13:02

thanx im glad someone,s finally said it
we never really age inside i dont feel it,its jus wen i look in the mirror and try to pull my face back so the lines dont sho.paranoia

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singledadofthree · 16/04/2008 23:19

youre welcome - promotion sounds good - i reached the pinnacle of my current career on the first day, cos i'm good like that

and its true about being as old as you feel - i still think and do the same stuff (mostly) that i did 20 years ago. and still have the same dreams and ambitions too. is only singleparenthood thats slowed me down a little there - tho we do need grounding now and then. in my case it gave me time to grow up a bit which i needed. tho i always looked like an old git anyway but without the paranoia.

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