Ex won't cooperate with mediation or agree

[pip1984]

Hi.
I have fairly recently split from my husband. We have a 2 year old son.
At the start my ex was insisting on 50/50 custody and equal responsibility. That however, has not been the case. He had seen our son for 1 weekend in 2 months while he 'sorts his life out'
He will not discuss anything with regards to finance or custody except to say he will see his son when he wants and on his terms.
he is yet to pay any maintenance and is refusing to help with childcare costs.
I have tried to facilitate contact which hes refused or cancelled at short notice.
he has a problem with authority and especially with women in authoriry. this is all about control.
he will not be agreeing to anything in mediation and im worried this will end up in court.
has anyone else been through anything like this?

Why are youvworried about court? It could only be good for you.
He doesn't get to dictate anything.
Don't contact him.
Let him message you and then say when he can see DS a X date and Y time. He either takes it or he's doesn't.

And contact CMS tomorrow telling them he has 0 nights.
Don't ever expect anything from him and you'll never be disappointed

Don’t waste your energy. You can’t take him to court to force him to have more contact. Keep a detailed diary of your communications and dates he does have access. Leave that ball in his Court.

And apply to the CSA.

Go to the CMS for child maintenance.
This may trigger him into discussing contact so that he can pay less.
A Child Arrangement Order will spell out the times that you must make child available for contact. It doesn’t compel him to turn up at those times. It sounds like he’s the type who will fuck around and not turn up so leave it to him to take you to court.
For bigger issues like house and pensions, just go to court. He won’t be the last “adult” who won’t just get on with things like a human so it can be over quickly and cheaply.