Update on my xp is a selfish tosser thread

[CrackerOfNuts]

I switched on my old phone to get a number and xp had text saying 'will pick the kids up at 1pm ok ?'

Then another txt saying 'i take it thats not ok then'.

So, I rang him. I didn't want to, but obviously for the kids sakes contact needs sorting.

I informed him about me having changed my mobile number, to which he said I was going ott, and there was no need. Told him that I didn't give a toss wether he thought there was a need or not.

Told him that from now on he will only be able to contact me on that number when the he has the kids with him and that if he rings the home number for any other reason than to discuss one of the children, I will hang up.

Also told him that from now on, if Ds said he didn't want to go to daddys, then I will not make him. Told him that he needed to start making a big effort if he wants his son to ever want anything to do with me.
He said his relationship with ds was important to him, and he'd try and make things better between them.

Good, yes ?....then he informs me that he is applying for his passport and might be sodding off to Germany with a mate for an unspecified period of time, possibly weeks/months

At this point I gave up and told him he could next see the kids on Wed as usual.

Oh he has also not given me any money this week, which I know he is dying for me to ask for, but I will not.

Oh and he compared his possible jaunt to Germany for weeks/months, to my going away for 3 days

gawd grief. i think this needs sorting out asap and formally too. go see cab and ask their advice. get things written down and see if you can get the csa to sort out maintenance. i have been lef t xp dfor nearly 8mths and have jsut grown a backbone and told him he has to keep things as routine as poss for dd's sake - it has taken him nearly that long to get a copy of his rosta to me so i can plan dd's orutine - apparently his sol told him not to as it chnaged so much BUT it doesn't change so much and i still think it is important for kids to have routine - not schedule.

as for germany if he wants to go let him, it won't look good to the courts if it has gone that far?

Just hope he can't get a good signal from Germany, eh?

oh my god what a nightmare im glad my babies dad doesnt want to know us both! least i can do what i wish and not have a idiot causing me problems!