I’m going to throw the entire man in the bin 👍

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My boyfriend (of less than a year) NEVER understands what it’s like to be a single parent.
wants me to work 35 hours on 15 hours of childcare (I’m not magic lol), says he will leave me if I don’t work or study by September (be my guest m8), had a huge fight with me after church yesterday because I refused to go to the park with him instead of going home to give my son lunch 😂 so many times like this. Borderline telling me I’m trash for not working etc.
I’ve told him how it is, I’ve CRIED trying to get it into his thick skull that I am working just as hard as him day and night raising a toddler alone.
And now he texts me this:
Enlightening conversation with my German cousin You were a main topic. When you're awake I will inform you of the details, but she really humbled me with regards to my stance on childcare.

(yes, when I don’t answer him fast enough he assumes I am sleeping because I’m lazy and I have nothing to do just staying home all day)

I’ve been crying at him for months about how he doesn’t understand what it’s like to have a child but he wouldn’t hear it from me. My opinion doesn’t matter. He has no respect for me and this ‘cousin’ (he lies a lot so they’re probably not even related) talks to him once and he’s had an epiphany. WHAT HAVE I BEEN LITERALLY CRYING FROM STRESS FOR? F me, right?
so I can’t wait for the text back so I can be like ‘nah bye’
rant over, sorry

Yup, into the bin with him.

Good decision OP.
He sounds awful.

And you were with him because?

He lies a lot and I guess I was a bit desperate and lonely. Good thing it wasn’t very long 💪

Seems a solid decision to me. What a prince.
You are worth far more than this idiot op, you will feel a weight has lifted once that trash has been taken out.

And now he texts me this:
Enlightening conversation with my German cousin You were a main topic. When you're awake I will inform you of the details, but she really humbled me with regards to my stance on childcare.

Respond with "who dis?"

And then never speak to him again.

How disrespectful that when you explain it's not believed but when his female cousin does he has a revelation.

That's exactly what pisses me off, I couldn't have summarised it better.
I don't have time to work = I'm lazy
I want to raise my own son rather than leave him with my mum = I'm isolating myself
Food and naps are at regular times = I'm overbearing.

And instead of just admitting 'I'm a young childless man, I have no idea what it's like to raise a child let alone as a single parent', he makes me in the 'wrong' and it's perfectly reasonable for a single mother of a toddler to work full time, I'm just lazy. I'm furious. Just admit you don't know everything. This is a man who 'mansplained' so much to me, you know, the sort who tells you what it feels like to menstruate but doesn't know what hole piss comes from. Ugh.

He doesn't understand but don't put up with a man calling you lazy when your a mum to an infant

Bin him? Nah.

put him in the shredder, no one needs that crawling out the bin

In all seriousness, why have you been tolerating his shite for a year? Who the fuck does he think he is telling you you're a bad parent or that he'll leave you if you don't work x hours etc.

get rid of this utter twat & build your self confidence before trying again & next time get rid if they come out with this kind of shit!!!

I finally told him to F off and I feel soooo empowered!
So happy right now! I'm freeeeeeeeee

Good for you OP. Nobody needs that shit in their lives. Nobody.

Why did you wait this long??? What a horrible man!

There isn't a bin big enough for this scrote