Feel so alone

[Tryingtodoitall87]

I just need to vent , as I have no one to talk to .
It's been a year and 7 months since the farther of my children cheated and left to be with a younger Coworker.
And it's been hell of a emotional ride for myself and my children.
I have felt so lonely over the year , the friends I have got are married with families so they are not free to spend time with me . Today has been a hard day for me so far ,it's my birthday , and I'm alone , my children are at school, I asked last week if my friends wanted to go get coffee or breakfast with me on my birthday and not one of them want to go, I understand people have life's and priorities and can not find the time , i just really do feel alone , I always try to put time and effort in to the people around me , if they want to have coffee in the morning, lunch or just someone to talk to but I could not even get a happy birthday message from them .
I do everything alone

Aww that's not very kind of them! A BIG Happy Birthday from me 🎂💝🥳 I know how you feel, it can be so isolating being a lone parent, everyone else just seems to get on with their family life and your left waiting for an invite.

Hi OP. Do you work and what are your childcare arrangements? Do they go to school/nursery and do you have any family support nearby?

Do you work OP? I'm a single mum, have been for 13 years but I've always managed a quick lunchtime drink with my team on my birthday. It's not lunch out, but I'm not lonely.

Even if you can't work, can you volunteer to increase your adult conversation. Local primary school or hospital? Small charity?

Sorry to hear OP. I understand where you are coming from. I was looking for some volunteering gigs that might help. It’s of course another demand on time.

Hi sorry I only see this just now . At the moment I have had to give up work due to one of my children having additional needs . I have no support their dad only has 2 days with them every 7-8 days and will not give any help outside the little maintenance he pays and the two days he has them .
My family all work full time and not very big .

Firstly, please don't feel that this won't improve. I'm sure if we think about it we can come up with a plan for how things could be better for you.

Are your kids in school/nursery on any days?

Take yourself out on dates.....I know its hard been doing it for so long and the loneliness never leaves but you have good days and bad days. Take each day one at a time. When I feel alone cry it out.....eat good food and cake and just let the day be. Don't over think. Just remember the good days