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Difficult 12 year old son

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Bertieboo93 · 04/07/2024 21:42

My son is 12. He is physically big for his age. Often mistaken for age 15/16.
He has been through a lot in his short life. His dad is south African and I think he may be deported. This is the minor concern.
his dad is violent - I know no one is perfect. But his dad is an awful man. My son is somewhat worried of his dad but he respects him more than me

He’s done the worst a man can do to a woman. But my son doesn’t know this. He’s witness things. But my son is turning in to a horrible, selfish, angry , spiteful person. Only towards me. And I am an introvert give the boy what I think he needs for his development and life.
my son is making me depressed. I googled it and I’m almost burning out. He is ADHD pending. He does and says things to hurt me. I work full time as a social worker and my son is literally ruining my whole mood. He is challenging. I can’t sit and type out everything as it’ll be a book. But what do I do please. I asked the school for help. I am having him re assed for ADD- he was assessed aged 4 (bit asked to come back at 5) then he was assessed via teams during covid
his dad puts me down so. U b. My son is calling me names his dad calls me. He is behaving like his father. It’s scary. He’s a big lad. He is not the most academic, but the boy has so many qualities that over rides this. But his attitude, words, demeanour, feel like I’m in egg shells. He does matial arts, has a little Saturday job. I love him so much. But I’m breaking. I hope this is a safe space. And welcome support

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AndMiffyWentToSleep · 14/07/2024 15:35

That sounds so tough. Hopefully school can offer some support. Sounds like you both could benefit from some therapy/couselling to help process what you’ve been through with his dad. Is there a local youth club he could attend - to give you a break but also get some other positive adult input in his life?

Womansisterdaughtermother · 28/07/2024 05:28

That sounds incredible tough BertieBoo. Definitely pursue the diagnosis of Adhd and look at therapies that can help manage it.

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