I’m going to try and keep this brief. Got with my ex when I was 19 and he was 35. He moved into uni accommodation with me, owed me over £500 at one point. It was never a healthy relationship but domestic violence started when I got pregnant. He cheated on me too. I was young and scared and being a single mum seemed like the most terrifying thing in the world, I looked up to him and I felt like I wouldn’t be able to cope without him. He used cocaine heavily at the start of our relationship, then I thought he had quit but looking back I’m not sure he ever really did. We moved into temporary accommodation, I had my daughter, same issues with drug use kept popping up as well as gambling and further violence. Got pregnant again, asked him if he really wanted the baby as I could not cope having another one if things were going to continue the way they were. He said yes he wanted another one and things would be better. I’m sure you can see where this is going…but had my son, same issues with cocaine, gambling and violence. He came home at 5pm when little man was four months old off his nut on gear. I asked him to leave, he refused, argument ensued and neighbour ended up calling police after I was screaming for help. He gets arrested for ABH, bailed for three months, then charges dropped. I was then on my own for eight months, his relentless pursuit to get me back did not stop in this time. Eventually I caved. We got back together, shortly after he broke both of his wrists (window cleaner, fell off a ladder) I cared for him, washed him, did everything for him. Book a concert ticket with my friend for £40 of my own money, he spits in my face and kicks me and says the money should be going on us. I call the police. Social services get involved, assist with managed move, but push for me to get non-molestation order in place so I do. Went to court but he is contesting it so going back next month. The order only includes me currently, but my question is, when we were first together I found his TikTok and he was following a few underaged girls on there who were still in school. Yes I know it was cowardly of me not to leave at this point. But should I say this to my solicitors and show the screenshot of me calling him out for it at the time and asked to get the kids included on the non-molestation order? Or is this just going to put me in a bad light?