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Some exciting news ....

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goingbonkers · 08/04/2008 22:42

Yes!!! I've got a date! A real date with a real person... A MAN!!!!!!

Sorry - Am a bit giddy and excited! Can you tell???

It was my first time checking out internet dating and I seem to have met someone that is lovely!!! Meeting him on saturday afternoon so will keep you all posted.....

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Pinkchampagne · 22/04/2008 22:28

All sounds very good, GB! He sounds nice.

Not sure what we will do tomorrow. We only see each other a couple of times a week because we live in different towns, and he works a late night shift Mon - Fri, and I work in the day.
We see each other at the weekend, and if I can get the boys' dad to have them after school, we sometimes see each other for a few hours before he goes to work, as Wed is my half day.

We normally go for coffee somewhere, and then he will often take me somewhere to eat. I might be good to him tomorrow, and cook him something though!

davidtennantsmistress · 22/04/2008 22:37

wow sounds very good! gb. am impressed, i've got my posh frock but do I have to buy a hat! lol.

my situation's much the same as PC's althou we live in the same town, DP is up at 5am everyday for work, and usually in at 6, so we see each other on a weds night and normally a sat night as well (stop over) and if we can in-between, but are normally texting/ringing etc all day & night! I have to work around when X has DS - as i'm aware I can't go out stay at dp's every weekend and leave DS with either his dad or his nanna. weds I normally cook here, with a bottle of wine sat we normally go out - old boring couple already! lol. last saw him on sun night, roll on tomorrow night.

hope it continues to go well for you both. How weird is it thou to say 'I have a boyfriend' at our age??

MascaraOHara · 22/04/2008 22:40

Wow! that sounds amazing!

Pinkchampagne · 22/04/2008 23:01

It does seem funny referring to them as "my boyfriend" Can't quite get used to it!

Our situations do sound similar, DTM. I will often see my man on a Sat night while boys are with ex H, and I stay the night at his. I love doing that as it is like my own grown up time!
Ex H went out last Sat though, so he had to come to me.

Have a good time tomorrow night, DTM.

davidtennantsmistress · 23/04/2008 08:36

well i've stopped with boyfriend, and am calling him DP on here, or someone i'm seeing in RL. iycwim.

I know exactly what you mean re staying at his, I don't think DP can quite understand why I love stopping at his when he lives in a shared house (all be it a huge one) when I have a full house! but as you say it's adult escape time really for me.

hope you have a nice time tonight as well.

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goingbonkers · 23/04/2008 20:11

OK so it's all going really well, but now I'm a tiny bit freaked out... he told me today that the first time we met he felt it was love at first sight!!

Is that a bit full on or am I getting paranoid?? I don't take compliments very well, but is it really possible that i've met someone who really likes me so much so soon? Or should it be ringing teeny tiny alarm bells??

He certainly doesn't seem like a psycho but it just came a bit out of the blue!! Eek!

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davidtennantsmistress · 23/04/2008 23:11

it is possible yes. but I say that with an air of caution. as like you I don't take compliments too easily. however, DP said after the 4th time we met that he had the 'wow' factor immediately with me (bless) as I said I didn't and was waiting for someone to have it with - think it offended him slightly, bit of backpeddaling was needed! lol. anyhow,

'tis all good over here. so whilst i'm cautious (and suggest you do the same) it's also nice to have someone who cares so much.

good luck to you.

Pinkchampagne · 24/04/2008 18:36

Wow, that is heavy! He is obviously very keen, and I can see why you may feel slightly freaked, as I think I would too - but then I am one who doesn't like too heavy too soon.

I am not sure about the whole "love at first sight" thing (probably because I've never experienced it myself), but he must really really like you.

Agree that it is lovely to have someone who really cares about you, but like DTM says, just remain a little cautious.

Hope all goes well for you.

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goingbonkers · 24/04/2008 21:53

I am trying to take the advice of a good friend. As I've had a very bad experience with my DD's dad I seem to instantly look for the problems and the 'bad' side of men! I don't intend to do this but I have been left with certain trust issues! I need to stop looking for things that put me off and be cautiously optimistic. Of course, if there were problems I don't think ignoring them will help!!

I'm in agreement with Pinkchampagne as I've never experienced love at first sight myself. I'm not even totally convinced I've ever really been in love. I thought I loved my ex but in hindsight I think it was more that I felt sorry for him and thought I could help him become a better person! Hah! That backfired!!! Lol!

Part of me seems to be very cautios but the other part is dying to rip his clothes off!!! He seems like a real gentleman though and although we haven't got to the 'sex' issue yet, I think he's of the same opinion as me in that we want to wait a while and make sure it's right. I have never met a man like that before!!!

And let's face it- it's been a fair while since I've engaged in sexual activity so I'm a bit out of practice! Anyone got any advice there? Is it really like riding a bike? (So to speak)

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Pinkchampagne · 24/04/2008 22:49

How long had you been single before meeting this guy?

Take it all one day at a time, and see how things progress.
As for the sex - you will be fine! Have a few drinks beforehand, then rip his clothes off, and all that follows will come pretty naturally!

I have never experienced love at first sight. I need to get to know someone quite well before emotions take right over, so am sceptical about all that.
I was also unsure if I had ever really been in love before (even with ex H), but am very much in love with my new partner. Was in the relationship a couple of months before I could definitely define my feelings though.

The early days of a new relationship are great - enjoy it!

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goingbonkers · 25/04/2008 13:49

I plan to!

I've been single for 4 yrs now and my ex and I were together 3 yrs before we split so it's 7 yrs since I've done dating and sex with a new man!! Quite a terrifying thought!!

Have not done sex with kids in next room thing though!!

He is coming over tonight and then we are taking the kids for a day out tomorrow.

It's the first time the DC's will meet so everything is crossed that they accept eachother as friends. My dd is 3 and his ds's are 4 and 2 so the ages are very close.

Will let you know how it goes!!!

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Pinkchampagne · 25/04/2008 17:09

Good luck!

I met my new man a year after I separating from ex H. I was with him 11 years, so I hadn't dated for 12 years! Felt very strange & a bit scary at first, but I soon got used to it!

Didn't worry about being out of practise with the whole sex thing, but worried about it affecting me emotionally, as I had been with ex H so long, and much as there were no feelings there, didn't know how I would feel having sex with someone new for the first time.
When it came to it, I was fine though, and I'm sure you will be too!

davidtennantsmistress · 25/04/2008 18:16

gb - it is refreshing isn't it to meet someone who's not like that - DP needed a little gentle persuasion! lol.

hmm riding a bike- yep it is pretty much like that, just do what ever comes naturally (cliché I know) but go with the flow and do what you feel is right.

re the trust issues etc, give that a little time as well - give the man a chance. DP & I had a chat this week about some of my issues & why I have them so he's now more understanding, which from my POV is fantastic, so give the chap a change and see what happens, i've come to the conclusion that if we go thru life only trusting ourselves and our family (ie parents aunt uncles etc) it would be a very sad and lonely exsistance. gotta take a chance at some point - and it might as well be with him right?

i've never had love at first sight either I like to think thou that by taking my time to decide at least then you're sure of how you feel

ooh also re the sex thing - might be an idea to try and pick a night when the LO's will be out so you won't have to worry about that. have a good time tomorrow.

oh and also on a scale of what was worst first date after splitting from XH or first time sex with someone other than XH. it was the date. I was so nervous could hardly talk! literally! and we were together 8 years from the age of 17!

Pinkchampagne · 25/04/2008 18:31

Agree it may be a good idea to pick a night when the children aren't around, for the first time you get a bit more intimate. Children have a habit of waking up & calling out when you least want them to! I talk from experience here!!

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goingbonkers · 26/04/2008 20:31

at children waking up! Passion killer or what!!! Lol!

Went out today and had a fantastic day out and the DC's were all very good and got on well. I was expecting it to be a bit stressful but it was fine. I even went back to his house for the first time and then met his sister and she was lovely and very welcoming. We seemed to get on really well and my DD was very comfortable around all the new faces she met today.

He came over last night for a takeaway too and we had a lovely evening cuddled up on the sofa. I can't believe how nice it feels to have a gorgeous man to cuddle! However, I was very shocked to find that our kissing got quite passionate and seemed to awaken something inside me!! It didn't go any further but I am less nervous about getting intimate now. I don't think I've ever experienced electricity like that before! (And I've slept with a few men!!! ) In fact, I can't wait to get a naughty weekend away somewhere minus the DC's!!! It's his birthday soon...............

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Pinkchampagne · 28/04/2008 16:00

Luckily they haven't come down, but we have had "Muuuummy, I need a drink", or something similar, at the worst possible moment!!

Glad all is going well for you. It is lovely to cuddle up with a gorgeous man, isn't it?

I remember that first passionate kiss with my DP, having a similar effect on me. I couldn't wait to get my hands on him the next time I saw him! We are still like that now, 8 months on!

fransmom · 28/04/2008 16:07

just popped in quickly as on library pc again!!

hi pc!!

good luck all xxx will pop back soon love fm xxx

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goingbonkers · 28/04/2008 18:43

Good for you Pinkchampagne! I can't bare the thought of the initial rush of feelings wearing off - I want it to be like this forever!!!

It's so exciting! Think we will see if we can get a night away in a nice hotel somewhere and make the first time a bit more romantic.

Might have to treat myself to a shopping spree in La Senza!! Well that's his birthday present sorted!

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Pinkchampagne · 28/04/2008 22:36

Well, as I say, we have been together 8 months now & the excitement hasn't worn off at all!

The hotel sounds like a nice idea, and spoil yourself to that new underwear!

mehdismummy · 28/04/2008 22:45

did you go for a walk?

Pinkchampagne · 28/04/2008 22:49

We did actually, MM - we walked across the seafront & then walked his dog. That was all very innocent though!!

Pinkchampagne · 28/04/2008 22:51

Oh FM, just noticed your post! Lovely to see your name again. Hope all is well with you.

mehdismummy · 28/04/2008 22:52

youre walks are legendary, are you still getting pop ups btw

Pinkchampagne · 28/04/2008 22:57

Pop ups are a chuffin nightmare! It is happening every few seconds. Need to get BIL to look at this pc sometime. (Sorry for slight thread hijack, GB!)

mehdismummy · 28/04/2008 23:00

get on msn love!

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