I have 2 children with the same dad, eldest is currently out of school SEN child. I have a child with me 24/7 apart from every other weekend when they go to their dads. I do school pick ups/drop offs. After school clubs, sen meetings and all the mental load that comes with having a neurodivergent child. Their dad does not help what so ever, I can’t work atm due to eldest not having a school place, I pay for everything and organise everything with the children. And I’m exhausted!
Today I had to ask their father if he could have them for a few hours so I could take the dog out and clear my head, the response I got back was LOL, imagine having children! It’s a long weekend we have been out both days doing different activites, why is it made out I’m a bad mum for asking him to have them for a couple of hours so I can gather my thoughts and have a few hours to myself? He does nothing with the children unless it’s his weekend, even school holidays it’s all me. I’m so tired, I have zero time to myself and I’m pretty sure he finds it funny that my mental health is now being affected.
sorry I feel like I needed to rant before I have a breakdown. Also both my children have adhd one also with asd so it’s full on 24/7 and he just doesn’t help and laughs at me for not coping some days.
he is self employed, goes on holidays when he wants, gym, socialises with friends while I bring up our children with no help or financial support at all. I’m so exhausted from it all, I’m a shell of the person I used to be, I just need a break