I'm alone and freaked out - help!

[ShakeysGirl]

Seriously freaked out. The children are at their dads and have been for a few days. I went out a couple of hours ago and distinctly remember looking up at ds' bedroom window and noticing that it needed a clean. The window was closed as it always is - i never open it. I've just come back and it is wide open. I've called dp and he hasn't been round, hes at work. I've asked the neighbours and they haven't seen anything but someone must have been in my house?!

oh god!! i have nothing to say have you checked all your valuables etc are still there? maybe u need a cso to come round???

bump anyway for you

call the police anyway, at least they can check it out, and make you feel less nervous, good luck

Nothing has been taken or touched as far as i can see, there are no signs that anyone has forced the door or anything. Would the police be interested or would they just think i was being stupid and had left it open myself?

I actually found a burglar preparing to try and break in my back door but managed to scare him off (no make up, tomato soup running down chin) so I can fully appreciate how hideous it feels when you think someone has violated your property. I would definitely try and get a CSO round. Slim chanc, but it has been extraordinarily windy today and I have noticed my windows really rattling. Is it possible the window was only slightly ajar and has been pushed open by the wind? If nothing's missing I would think that is the most likely explanation.

I am sure the police would be fine. You are a female. You have kids, you have arrived home to see a window wide open and you know it was closed on your way out. Naturally you are concerned and suspicious and freaked. They are there for reassurance, and you never know, someone else in your area may have had a problem with possible intruders today and therefore always worth reporting.

Report it. It could have been that someone disturbed a burglar, and there may be a spate of similar intruders in the area.

Better to be safe then sorry.

The window is one of those double glazed ones with 2 handles and a key in the lock. It was def locked because i check before i go to bed and so couldn't have just blown open iyswim. I called the local police station who have 'noted my concern' but wont do anymore that that as no crime has been committed. Next door said her neighbour had some ladders stolen off his van 2 days ago so maybe thats connected.

I see your point Shakeys, I was clutching at straws there. Could you ask a neighbour or friend to come and have a look round with you, just to put your mind at rest if nothing else. Sorry about the police attitude - I thought the Community Support Officers were meant to help people in their communities in crime prevention, not just when one has happened. Having said that, when I reported the burglar I saw they said 'Oh yeah, I think we know who you mean' but noone ever came round to see if I was ok!

Dp has just called from work to check i'm still in one piece bless him, he knows i'm naturally jumpy and nervous in the house alone. I need to get a dog i think. Dp wont be back from work til about 1am and theres no one that can come and keep me company. Wont be getting in the shower tonight tho, have seen to many horror films!

Don't mean to scare you, but my sister woke up one day to hear an odd noise outside her bedroom window, so she closed it. In the morning, there was a ladder (stolen from nieghbours yard) up against her wall. Now this guy never came back, so it was opportunistic, not targetting her specifically. But you are right to be alert. Call the police, scream for the neighbours, don't matter how daft you look, so long as you are safe.

That did sound alarmist, Sorry. It's just that we shouldn't underplay our safety for the sake of feeling stupid.

Sorry, I've only just seen your message. Seeing as my neighbours had their ladder stolen it doesn't seem alarmist at all. I'm still a bit freaked out being in the house on my own but I've asked next door to keep an eye out when i'm not around.

Hope your ok shakey

I had a nasty incident the other morning thankfully was to ill to care at the time but since I have got scared. Came down Sunday morning waiting for my brother to come round to help me with the girls as I was bad with Flu. My eldset went into the hall and came back,, she told me a man was at the door but not outside it. I crawled off the couch to see what she was on about and there was a lad about 19 stood there with his finger up to his lip as if to say shhh. "I asked him what he was doin in my house" and he just turned round without a word and walked out.

Hells bells, MS&A. That is freaky shit. I am very very lucky to have three large teenagers in the house, so I don't feel as vulnerable as I might if all my children were small and I was the only one to protect them. It is a very scary thought that you might not be adequate for the task when they are little.

Take care of yourselves girls. Goes to show, we should never get too complacent.

OMG! Did you call the police? How scary for you.

No I think my look proberbly scared him enough. Because I was so ill I wasn't in the mood so never felt or showed fear at the time and I did look quite frightning with my muffin top hangin out and hair all over. My frst thought at the time was he was probablt drunk and gone into the wrong house is was only after replaying it in my mind later that I became scared and other thoughts crossed my mind.

How are you now?

Shouldn't be reading this, dp out tonight, just double locked all doors. Also there's a thread on here called 0k - is this spooky, what's going on? They reckon they've got a ghost (would that be better or worse than intruders). Anyway is there somewhere else you could stay tonight, family or friends until dp gets back? Bit late now perhaps to get everyone up, but might be a better night's sleep for you.

Just noticed this was posted 01 April, soz advice obviously a bit late!!