Not allowed to vent anymore it seems.

[PolarPandaBear]

I have my kids full time and they have never spent a night at their father’s house since we split many years ago. I put a vent on a single parents group as my children are very clingy and still follow me around the house even though they are basically almost teenagers but quite a few comments told me I shouldn’t complain as some people have lost children so I should lucky?! So we can’t vent now if it’s all a bit much? This was a single parents group so I wouldn’t have expected those comments and thought more people would understand I wasn’t moaning about my children just saying I find being followed around difficult and sometimes want 5
minutes to myself. But kept getting told I am lucky or enjoy as they grow up soon probably by people who have involved exes so don’t know what it’s like to not share parenting with anyone. Now I feel awful and like I can’t vent because others have lost children.

There is always someone who is a worse situation but that shouldn't mean you can't let off steam and be heard. Parenting is hard, lone parenting has a set of challenges that can make things even harder.

Women's suffering in this type of situation with young children is minimised in general. It's easier to ignore I suppose. So much is expected of women!

Rant away pet. I'm a double parent household so have no idea how bloody hard it is to be a single parent but I would never diminish your feelings.

I have no patience with the 'there's always someone worse off then you' brigade.

They minimalize and completely fail to recognise your emotions are totally valid and should be respected.

I hope you've managed to grab a few moments of calm this weekend

Yes of course you can vent - vent away!

Fellow single parent here.
My sister had a late pregnancy loss and subsequent infertility and decided that she no longer could manage having me and my DC in her life. I spent many years counting my blessings and feeling so grateful for my DC.
I still do count my blessings and feel grateful for my DC.
It doesn’t change the fact that I have brought them up 99% myself, with the financial and emotional pressures that entails and I am the wrong side of 50 now looking at my life and going - right… I am totally at the stage where I want time for myself. I am totally at the stage where I want to be able to tidy the house and it stays tidy and I am not the person who has to organise everything. I love my children dearly and I love being their mother but I am so done with the daily grind of parenting.

It’s starting to feel as if one has to put a disclaimer before having a moan.

Vent away.

Rant away! I'm a lone parent. It's hard, really really hard at times. It has nothing to do with other people's losses. Of course that is utterly tragic but it is perfectly ok for anybody to want to vent when things get a bit tough. Keep on keeping on. And have these

Vent away ! I was only a single parent to one child , and I felt it was incredibly hard at times .

I am a single parent, I have a lot of support from friends and family but I also do have times where my daughter is a lot and I vent about this! I think you (and all parents) have a right to vent, and you’re right, a single parents page should be a place this is accepted. You are lucky to have your children, as am I, but you’re also allowed to feel however way you do feel. I wouldn’t let it get to you! It’s not like you were venting to someone specific who is trying and unable to have children!