Bloody men.

[auntypurple]

I am so angry, the csa have been trying to track down exp for the last 2 months. They found his employers and as he wasn't answering the letters they sent him, they went to them. Anyway today I get a call from the csa, and dd has to have a dna test as exp says he is not her dad. Bloody prat left me when I was 4/5 mths preg and he knows dam well that she is his, not that he has ever been in contact since the day he left . I will take dd for the dna test, but what if he refuses to take one?

Are all men shites then? IME its not gender that defines a person's integrity.
Bloody men and bloody women.

NO not all men are shites. I am just so angry that he walked out on us when the baby was planned, didn't tell me he was going and she is now 14mths old, and he is saying she is not his.

(Give it a rest with the political correctness Elenor. Just because your dp's ex is a cow, doesn't mean that you have to knee-jerk defend every man ever mentioned negatively on this topic! You're obsessed.)

Aunty Purple. Sorry this has happened to you. My dd's father did the same to us. But he does pay maintenance, while still refusing to acknowledge that he is the father. (It must be an act of charity ). Re. the csa, as far as I know, if your xp refuses the dna test, it will be assumed that he is the father.

My ex pulled exactly the same stunt - as soon as he found out he would have to pay for the test, he admitted he knew he was the father. I thought it was hilarious!

Still haven't had a penny though after 3.5 yrs!

Try not to let the whole CSA thing get to you - I wasted so much energy on it all and got really stressed. I now realise I'm never gonna see a penny, (he changes jobs/address every couple of months)and am proud to be supporting myself and DD without him.

Yes, goingbonkers is right. he has to pay for the DNA test, and it is backdated to when he was first contacted.

So he can end up paying more!

I think, (please say if im not right) if he refuses to take the test they can presume he is the father

Talk about adding insult to injury, auntypurple. I hope you get the result you deserve. Life's hard enough, without absolute injustice.

Thanks for the replies, tbh I don't care about the money. If he has to pay for the test he will probably back down as he knows that dd is his. Still can't belive that he said she's is not.