possible new bloke wants to come and stay

[beansmum]

I visited my sister a few weeks ago and met a guy. Nothing much happened, had a bit of a snog and a good chat. He lives REALLY far away but wants to fly up and stay one weekend and just see if something could work out. Bad idea?

do you like him?if yes then it sounds like a good idea to me

A better idea might be to meet halfway if you have spare cash and someone to mind your DC. That way, if he turns out to be boring, pick his nose and fart all the time or indeed to be troublesome, you're not stuck with him all weekend, you can get whoever's looking after the DC to phone you with a fake 'emergency' and go home.

well if the snog and chat went ok then i would investigate further definitely

and i am a bit reckless so would pronbably have him to stay but otherwise you could stay in ahotel

I don't know if I like him! I only met him once and had only spoken to him once since then. We have been messaging on facebook but not about this. I didn't even realise he was so keen until I spent the Easter weekend with my cousin (his flatmate) and was told that he really wants to see me again.

I would rather see him in a group so there isnt so much pressure but he has said he wants to come up by himself. I don't want to just say no but he doesn't see my point of view.

I hadn't even thought about what to do with ds. I don't think my mum would be happy to look after him while I spend the weekend with a strage man but I'm not sure I want ds here if the strange man does come visit!

oh well you dont sound too keen in that case id maybe not bother

tho i didnt fancy the guy i am seeing to begin with

i changed tho lolol

I can't work out why he is so keen. We did have a good chat but I live sooooooo far away and have such a different lifestyle. I just feel a bit

Well, if he cant see your point of view now, and you havent even started dating, imagine what he will be like later! I dont like the sound of that, he sounds pushy. He is probably imagining a free holiday, with sex.

i know its a bit naughty but could you tell you mum your having a girly weekend away or is somebody likelyto let slip the truth

oh well just stick with messages until you next go and stay with your sister

how far away is he hundreds of miles? in which case it is probably not worth the trouble

i am doing a long distance thing but iit is only a 100 miles

I think I have convinced myself that it isn't a good idea. I live in edinburgh and he lives in london. Even though the flights are really cheap and quick we wouldn't see each other much. I will see him again soon anyway, he is coming up with his flatmates to climb somewhere around here. then we are both going to some of the same birthday parties over the next few months. It could still work out...

ah well that sounds better then just see him then

i find it expensive doing this weekend thing but ive started so i cant finish lol

If you are not even sure whether or not you like him then it's definitely a bad idea to invite him to stay with you for the weekend. And he does sound a bit pushy, which would certainly put me off.
By all means see him again if he's coming up with his mates: that might give you more of an idea of whether or not you want to be friends with him, date him or shag him.
Tell him that you don;t have people to stay in your house which is your child's home too unless you know them fairly well and your DS has met them at least once, that should see him off.