DD1 just said to me hasnt DD2 been well behaved since she came home from her dad's

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dd2-4 goes to her dads one afternoon a week from school and stays over night so i pick her up the next day from school. she comes home and is wingey, badly behaved, just very challenging etc, this continues for 4-5 days and she gets back to her normal self and it is time for her to go again, so me and dd1 dread her coming back as it is so awful and it should be wonderful.... anyway this time she went on weekend (friday to sat) so was brought home rather then to school and she has been a complete Joy,

and dd1 said to me tonight Mum i have just realised dd2 has been really good since coming home from her dads...
could it be that she was bought home rather than to school?

could be because she's been able to spend a decent amount of time with her dad so is now ready to be back "home" rather than quickly carted off to school before she's ready?

yeah maybe....

Think as well it is a long time not to be at home with school in between before i pick her up..

he is having dd friday this week then back to me sat morning- which will be no more time with him than normal so it will be intresting to see if it any different.
then the week after... he picks her up from school then back to school...

to be honest I am shocked at the difference in dd....

Did he have her for a longer time on saturday? She might well have a slightly later bed time with dad as is excited and he wants to spend time with her no doubt. Does she tend to wake up earlier on the day she is going to her dad's, more excited perhaps?If they got to have a lie in on saturday morning, and a relaxed breakfast and time together rather than having to rush off to school/work then that might be why she wasn't so tied and whingey when she came home.

You might want to look at varying things so she gets to spend more time with her dad, and specifically more time at the weekend. It seems to have suited your daughter on this occassion, so speak to your ex about it and see if you can find a solution.

Gilly

thanks for your response...

unfortunately he prefers to have dd during the week, but he was in america last week so couldnt have dd....
It is a shame he cant be here to see the difference in her