So I told ds last night that daddy no longer lives here :-(

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He is 7 and has ASD, so I knew it would'nt be easy, his face crunmled immefiately, and he said "why? but I like him though" he sobbed until gone midnight, would'nt let me out of his sight, he keeps asking what date daddy is coming back to live.

I feel so terrible for him,

crumbled immediately...........sorry for typos.

someone tell me he will be alright

He will be ok you poor thing.

Just out of interest why didnt you tell him together?

He will be fine. I had to do this with dd1 when she was 5. She was heartbroken and cried for about a week, and then she got used to it. Kids are resilient and as long as you are honest and open with him then he should be fine. Its horrible but he will get over it.

Because he was asking questions, and I did'nt want to lie to him, I phones H after and he came over to reassure him, but its not helped much, he struggles to understand and often cant explain what he is feeling.

I'm sorry.... It's really difficult.

If at all possible ( I don't know your story) would it be possible for you and his dad to talk to him together?

It might be better if he can ask both of you the questions? (or at least get answers from his dad too?)

He will see his daddy lots, and I have explained to him he can ask anything at any time.

I'm sure that as long as he can see mum and dad still love him, he'll be fine....

It's tough, break ups always are, but I'm sure he'll be OK with it.

It is so hard because you are hurting as well and for whatever reason you are trying to get your head round a life which is different from the one you were working towards. having to answer hurt kids as well is not easy at these times.