Co parent is having a baby

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I’ve been co parenting with my ex for three years, and it’s worked really well and been amicable. We knew we didn’t want to be together but we did want to parent together. My daughter spends time with him and his girlfriend and loves him very much. I’ve just found out they’re expecting a baby of their own and I’m surprised at how emotional it’s made me. I really want to be supportive and happy for them but it feels like such a huge change for us and I’ve been crying a lot. I feel like we’ll be forgotten. I know he won’t but it still feels that way. It’s also making me relive some of the more difficult bits of being pregnant and looking a newborn alone.

Do you mean you think she will be forgotten? Not “we”?

Oh gosh I'm sorry OP I bet it's brought up all sorts of feelings and may continue to for some while :/

I am sure you already know this just part of life with your child's father being in a new relationship etc I am sure that doesn't make it easier

Lots of adjustments on both sides, from what
you say it sounds like he is committed to coparenting your child

If appropriate, at some point, it may be worth trying to discuss some of the more rational thoughts you have about the situation with him. Otherwise I think you just need to cut yourself some slack and accept this is a massive deal for your life and your child's life and you will get through it (as you have clearly got through everything up to this point)

Big unmumsnetty hugs

You say “we” will be forgotten. You should be saying “she” will be forgotten, as in just your daughter.

you are no longer in a relationship with this man. As long as your daughter is happy and still in his life that’s all that matters.

take some time to lick your wounds and get over it but don’t take it out on him or your daughter.