Me and my ex split on the 4th December, he didn’t actually move out until New Year’s Day. He said he would see our daughter once throughout the week before he starts work at 4pm and every Sunday. So far he only commits to Sundays but it’s consistently late each time. 2 hours to be exact. I phone him when he is 15 mins late and my phone call is what gets him out of bed. he always says ‘I will be there soon’ and when I ask what soon is he just says soon. I am then met with a bunch of excuses such as he’s on anti depressants because out of our split, or that he’s not sleeping well, or that he was up late the night before. I told him he is dictating what I do with my time as the Sunday just gone I had to cancel meeting friends because I was waiting around for him. He then told me ‘I am not dictating your time at all so don’t throw that in my face’
I am scared of my ex, through a number of things that have happened in the past so any confrontation I have with him sets my anxiety off. He has agreed and told me he will be here 10am every Sunday from now on to collect our daughter.
do I have to wait around? How long should I leave it before I just leave with my daughter to start my day? He is absolutely renowned for being late, he is always late for work as he is literally incapable of getting out of bed. (He is 33).