Safe guarding

[ShiningStar1990]

Hi, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice on safe guarding.

My ex partner and I have been broken up for 6 years now, we have a 6 yr old daughter together. The relationship was abusive, emotionally and mentally. He was a very heavy drug and alcohol user, basically he is an addict.

I've had many issues with him in the past, not returning my daughter home, which I've had to go through the courts to get her back. He had been arrested for harassing me, stalking me etc. I was informed by CAFCASS he has previous of being arrested for soliciting.

A year ago he was at crown court on a rape trial, found not guilty by jury.

Since then he has been arrested a number of times for harassing different women and is currently on bail for harassment.

I am now having issues with him regarding child arrangements, refusing to accept the child arrangement I have put in place, it has to be his way or no way. I am at my wits end with the control, narcissistic behaviour. I feel I have no peace with this man. I just want him out of my life, away from me and my daughter. I suffer with BPD (borderline personality disorder) and he is affecting my mental health massively.

The fact he has been arrested again for harassment towards women has done it for me.

Is this behaviour not a safe guarding issue for me and his daughter? I don't want this man near me, near my house, near our daughter to be honest but I don't know where I stand from a legal point of view.

I've spoken to citizens advice who have given me advice on routes I can take but I'm so scared of going legal because this man has mentally destroyed me for years. What if what I am saying isn't taken seriously? If the courts believe the him and I get shoved out of court? I really need some advice and help on what steps I should take?

[PowerVandhana1986]

Goodjob.

[cordeliachaseatemyhandbag]

Don't do any contact that isn't court ordered.

Record everything.

Gather evidence.

Do whatever you can to keep this man away from your dd.

[ShiningStar1990]

I am going to speak to a solicitor and get some legal advice. The anxiety of the situation is destroying me and my peace.

He is threatening to collect her from her gymnastics club without my consent and I'm scared he won't return her to my care or if he does it'll be when I'm working so I won't be at home. He is making my life very difficult

[RowanMayfair]

You need legal advice. Whether or not it's a safeguarding issue is only relevant as far as courts are concerned. Your only protection is the legal system.