failure house move :(

[lotsofmumlove]

I was hoping for others who can relate or share experiences, I have massive mu guilt. Have recently moved house with small children, a move that was made due to marriage breakdown. Have moved away from area I love from a home I love. Now in a different area, and different home which needs work.... and now have a neighbour who likes to play loud music, which is really upsetting me. I just now hate the house, and want to put it up for sale and move all over again. All this has made me really miserable, and I just feel like an abolsute failure to my children and at life in general. I feel like my life is still in limbo and so sad as I want to move on with my life, and want to provide a stable home for us all. Im just broken. I cant just get it back on the market either as it does need a little bit of work to get it sold quickly, some repair and decor to get the price i need to move on..has anyone else been through similar.. I just want it all to go away and to be happy and settled .. I wake up in a morning and when i open my eyes i have this feeling in my pit where i just feel sad. Kids seem happy though thats the main thing. I just want to be the mum who has her sh'' together if you know what I mean, I have a good job, I do my best for my kids its just this part where im just in absolute limbo and terrified of the unknown and hope i sell my home and get sorted :(

[ditzzy]

I couldn’t leave this unanswered!

I hear you.

Are there any areas of the house that you do like? Even if it’s just a corner of one room? If you can find one area to make really yours, then can you make that a sanctuary?

Have you had any friends over yet? Have your dc had any play dates? Can you have a little moving in party for just you and the dc (I’m thinking cakes and music) to start making memories?

Its not going to solve everything, but might help you to make rational long term decisions.

Work out a plan for how much decor improvement you can do over the next six months to give you a target to put it back up for sale in 12 months time. That gives you a summer (of fun?) to test your opinion as well as giving time to get it looking nicer and make it less likely that people will assume there’s a problem because you’re selling up so quickly.

I hope it starts feeling better (or you work out a way out!) soon

[longtompot]

Kids seem happy though thats the main thing
I would hold onto that. I imagine with a move like this you have focused on the new life, new beginnings etc but then when you actually start living it, it doesn't live up to the dream.
We moved to a new home after living in our previous rental for over 20 years, and the night we got the keys to this house I thought we had made a huge mistake, and this is in an area I have lived in my whole life. However, the next day, after my mum came to visit, I could see what it was that made us want the house and what it can be.
Can you make a lists? Of what you like, of what you can do now, of what you can get others to do and what you will need to save up for? It might help.

[lotsofmumlove]

Thank you so much for your advice, I wish I had friends / family that had the time to help, like most people they are all busy with their own lives. I will ask though you never know. Another stresser is schools, ive got one starting in september, there are two in the area, one is better as its a primary school so when i do move i dont have to worry as hes already in, hoever the other one is not a through school, its an infants, and have to reapply for the juniors... if we move slightly out of catchment he may not get into the juniors later on down the line... so I have that to contend with aswell...hes currently applied for the infants but i think im just going to ring and change it to the primary just incase...its a mind field..and I still have one who is currently still going backwards and forwards to his old school as this one is full... so clinging onto the hope once his brother gets in they may let him in too....so much has had an impact since marriage breakdown... it slike a domino effect.