I'm needing some mothers perspectives on this as my lawyer is quite literally making me question my sanity. Extremely annoying as my ex husband was a gaslighting narcissist who also made me question my sanity, hence the reason I am gathering some outside perspectives.
I finally managed to break free from the marriage in August last year and since then child contact has been arranged through solicitors. He was trying for full custody ect because I am "mentally unwell". None of this is holding up and he has been refused the legal aid.
He is also supposedly disabled and does not work. U sure about the truth behind this physical disability as he goes ice skating, fishing, camping ect which I think would be highly risky for someone with back problems but that's really none of my business. As long as my boys are safe in his company he can carry on.
I do have fibromyalgia which impacts my life a lot but have learned how to cope, get by ect and basically manage life with the condition.
Due to my health and the fact that father does not work, I feel that shared responsibility is a good option. It gives us both equal weekend and weekday time and the boys will not miss out on quality time with one parent. This also helps give me time to really rest as I have been totally burnt out for years since they were small.
Now, my lawyer cannot understand why I want this and is highly encouraging me not to propose this arrangement. He says it is very difficult to come back from once it is in place. And I've to think it over. I've done nothing BUT think it over for the past 5 fucking months. Gave careful consideration to everything. Asked the boys how they feel; observed how they are after coming home ect. They currently go from Friday to Sunday.
I'm looking to see if others have this 50/50 arrangement or have had it and regretted it?!
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theblackflash · 23/01/2024 18:29
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theblackflash · 24/01/2024 09:43
Thankyou. This is what I'm thinking. They are my children so why is the lawyer questioning my judgement?! As much as I cannot stand their father, he wants involved in every aspect of their life, why should I deny that? What's 5522 how does that work?
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